The statement "think like a man, act like a woman" has often been misconstrued and adopted by many. However, attempting to do this could lead to disconnect from one's authentic self, leading to an unnecessary identity crisis. Understanding each other doesn't mean thinking like each other, rather it means cherishing our differences and appreciating individual gifts.
Many resort to drugs and alcohol as a way of evading reality, a means to justify certain behaviors or decisions. For instance, when confronted with a challenging situation like losing a job, some people drown their sorrows in alcohol instead of confronting and dealing with the issue.
A similar evasion of reality could be the belief that you can "think like a man". This thought may provide a temporary solace and justification for the absence of a partner in your life. But trying to think like a man to attract one would be as futile as hunting your prey by becoming like them—it simply doesn't work.
Reflecting upon a well-known story may help unravel the concept better. Consider the biblical tale of creation. God created man, named Adam, in His own image. Adam's task was to tend the land, cultivate it. Understanding man's motivation, God created Eve from Adam's rib as a unique and powerful reason for Adam to strive and thrive.
In this narrative, Eve was created to motivate Adam, not the other way around. Despite originating from the same body, they were not given the same mind. The story illustrates that men and women were not designed to think alike—if we thought like each other, we'd be each other.
Contrary to popular belief, understanding each other is not about mastering the mindset of the opposite gender by reading a book or adopting their thought process. Such attempts might even prove detrimental, turning a man into a perceived threat if his actions are used against him.
The moral of this tale lies in cherishing our individuality and not forcing ourselves to think or act the same. It reinforces the adage, "ignorance is bliss". For instance, a successful businessperson doesn't need to know everything—they just need to hire someone who does. We need to appreciate each other for our unique gifts and invest our most valuable asset—time—in understanding and loving one another.
Remember: "I appreciate everyone, everything, and every event, whether seen or unseen, that led to me being me at every stage of me." - Swagger Coxch