Imagine this: you're at the zoo, entranced by the grandeur of nature. The zookeeper tiptoes through the tall grass, encroaching on the domain of the Lion— the indisputable King of Beasts. From his satchel, he retrieves a mouth-watering, raw steak and serves it up to the regal beast. An unwritten agreement underlies their interaction: Peace reigns as long as the King of Beasts, his Queen, and their appetite are kept satisfied. In return, they exhibit a surprising docility, a jovial spirit even.
But let's flirt with the 'what ifs.' What if our trusty zookeeper starts taking his majestic charges for granted? What if he wakes up one morning, feeling a tad bit daring, and decides to skimp on their gourmet meals?
Well, the King and Queen will quickly remind him— with their teeth and claws— that their gentle facade doesn't erase their primal nature. After all, even the most domesticated beast remembers its wild instincts.
Isn't that the same with love? Your partner—be it your wife, husband, or significant other— mirrors the traits of these beasts. They are your King or Queen— gentle and tame, yes, but never forget that beneath lies a fierce spirit. They haven't forgotten who they are, and neither should you. Kindness is not a weakness, and a gentle beast isn't synonymous with being feeble. Remember Buck from Jack London's 'Call of the Wild?' Even he couldn't resist the primal call.
So, let me ask you a bold, spicy question: Have you been taking your King or Queen for granted? And, what's the cost?
Picture me, muscles flexed, wrestling a mountain of dirty dishes at the sink. Yup, this man knows his way around a sponge and a bottle of Fairy Liquid. My wife, true to her mom's old-school practices, believes in letting the dishes "soak." And by the time I'm ready for the wash, the water's turned a shade of murky brown.
As I turn on the tap, a burst of crystal-clear water rushes out. One by one, I pick the "soaking" dishes, give them a thorough scrub, and then place them in the dishwasher to dry. And yes, I confess, I use the dishwasher as a drying rack. Old habits die hard.
Now, here's where things get interesting. As I drain the brown water with clear water still gushing, a realization hits me like a jet spray.
A lot of us are stewing in dirty water—or rather, our minds are. Have you been feasting on the toxic broth of negative memes about how terrible men are? You might find yourself nodding in agreement. A meme flashes, saying something about a man's hollow love declarations if his actions say otherwise. Your inner voice goes, "Preach! I knew he was a jerk." You're buying into this because your mind is soaking in this negative soup—let's call it what it is—propaganda. This negativity is making your ideas and perceptions (aka dishes) grime-laden.
Don't forget that a man's love language might not resonate with yours, but it doesn't mean his feelings are any less real. The dirty water is playing tricks on your mind!
Here's the game plan: extract those dishes from the dirty water, scrub off the negativity, rinse them with the fresh stream of positivity, and let them dry in the sunshine of optimism. Then, pull that plug. Let go of the negativity. Cleanse your mental space.
How about a detox? Stay away from negative social media for 30 days, and instead, immerse yourself in positivity. I promise you, not only will your love life take a turn for the better, but you'll witness a complete transformation in your life.
Now, the million-dollar question: Who's game for a dishwashing challenge?
Pop on the television or flick through a magazine, and you'll notice a pattern. Big men are often painted as lazy, solitary beings. If we're seen with a stunning woman, what's the verdict? Must be rich, they say. It's an unsettling trend that some label as 'fatphobia'. But here's where they've got it all wrong - we have an advantage.
Imagine you're out and spot a radiant woman. You stride over and hit her with a cheery "Hi!" Your confident tone throws her. It's not what she was expecting. Forget the throng of 'Sexy Flexis' around. None had the courage to approach her. But you did.
Her internal relationship barometer goes haywire. Like a compass thrown off by a powerful magnet, she's disoriented because you were not part of her script. All the 'Sexy Flexis' in the room, and you, the unexpected hero, made the first move. Just by saying "Hi," you've taken the lead.
Consider yourself the Alpha Dawg, the front runner. Fashion and how it aids your advantage is a topic for another day. But, let's look at the usual suspects in any social scenario. First, there's the 'Yard Dog'. He knows the ropes, is familiar with everyone, and generally plays the dominant alpha. Then, there's the 'Guerilla Pimp'. His unconventional style wakes everyone up but also puts the 'Yard Dog' on high alert.
So, where do you fit in? You are the 'Smooth Operator'. Your size, regardless of how you're dressed, only intrigues the women and not seen as a threat by the 'Yard Dogs'. You're the quiet storm of confidence. By the time the 'Yard Dogs' take notice, you're already leading the dance with the belle of the ball. And that, my friend, is the advantage of the 'Big Fella'.
Can you relate to this? Share your experiences! I can tell you; when other men see me with my wife, I know they're left scratching their heads in bewilderment.
Consider this - what's the score when it comes to your relationship? You've probably heard that love is a 50/50 game but let me be the one to break the news - that mindset is killing your relationship. In school, if you scored a 50%, you flunked, right? So, why are we applying failing standards to our love lives?
Love is not a game where you can get by on half-effort. Applying a 50/50 approach to your relationship is like getting a constant "F". In our society, "F" stands for failure! So why are you setting your relationship up to fail?
We've all been taught gender norms - men are supposed to do this, women are supposed to do that. The problem? This mindset is dated and counterproductive. It's time to debunk these myths and shift your mindset to saving your relationship.
Take a page from Michael Jordan and Scottie Pippen's playbook. They didn't achieve six championship rings by each putting in 50%. No, each of them showed up, game after game, giving 100% effort. If Pippen only gave 20% during Jordan's infamous flu game, the Bulls wouldn't have won the title.
In relationships, success lies in both parties committing to giving 100%. If you're only showing up with 50%, then you're just averaging out to a "C" - and who wants an average love life?
To truly experience a fulfilling and successful relationship, strive to give 100%, and encourage your partner to do the same. It's about both of you contributing fully to create a flourishing relationship.
Imagine reconnecting with a charming gentleman after years of lost contact. He invites you to a dinner he prepared to prove his culinary skills. As you enjoy the delicious meal, a question arises—what comes after dinner? This story delves into the dynamics of self-worth, relationships, and the price we put on ourselves.
After savoring an exquisite meal, you faced a choice. Do you leave after grading his cooking skills? Do you suggest watching Netflix? Or do you consider going out for dessert? Ultimately, you decided to pay him with more than just attention or physical cash. The value placed on the dinner and effort led to a deeper connection—the intimate exchange of emotions, a dinner smash.
But here's the twist. Despite the connection formed, you found yourself left alone, unsatisfied. It doesn't matter how incredible the intercourse was or how much the meal cost. What truly matters is how much you value yourself. Did you come at too low a price? Did you sell yourself short?
It's time to increase your self-esteem and expand your bucket. Relationships should be based on mutual respect, appreciation, and genuine value, not a mere transactional exchange. The worth you assign yourself sets the standard for how others will perceive and treat you.
Have you ever found yourself in a similar scenario? How did it make you feel? Share your experiences and join the discussion on valuing oneself in relationships.
It hit me like a bolt from the blue on a regular day in the office. Have I been quietly schooled to seize opportunities, to extract gain from every kind act? I'd possibly be flush with cash had I embraced this ideology. But wait, was this notion implanted in my mind through a seemingly harmless idiom?
Intrigued, I embarked on a mini social experiment. I solicited interpretations of this idiom from three distinct individuals, each hailing from a different walk of life.
Surprise, surprise – they all echoed the same interpretation.
Their immediate reaction was to criticize the proverbial 'cow' for foolishly giving away its milk for free. As if they were implying, "Don't play the fool in love."
My jaw hit the floor.
But then, their insights sank in, and it felt like a revelation. Their views struck a chord with my distaste for the stereotypical portrayal of relationships. It brought to mind the deeply resonant scene in "Boys N' Da Hood" when Doughboy laments, "either they don't know, don't show, or don't care about what be going on in the hood."
So, what's this potentially destructive idiom? "Why buy the cow if the milk is free?"
Hold your breath! This isn't an admonishment for those who embrace their sexuality. It doesn't imply that men will shirk commitment if a woman freely expresses her desires. The essence lies in "buy" and "free" – sketching the blueprint of a fair exchange.
Let me tickle your curiosity with a few teasing questions.
If you buy her a drink, are you purchasing the milk or the cow? If you splurge on a dinner and a movie, does it mean you're buying both the milk and the cow?
The answer? I'm as clueless as you are.
One thing we can concur on is that in this world of reciprocity, forking out something should warrant a return.
This misunderstood idiom has been the wrecking ball for countless potential love stories. Marriage, essentially a lucrative deal, can get dizzyingly confusing without proper guidance.
The unintended message we pass onto our children when we spew this idiom could be dangerously misconstrued. We teach our daughters that if a man pays, he should receive something in return, without specifying what that something should be.
Money exists in two forms: mental and physical. Mental cash is intangible, like time, while physical cash is tangible.
The idiom fails to highlight this dichotomy, leading it to be often taken literally. "Buy" and "free" become our guiding principles as these concepts chime with our day-to-day transactions. We pay for what holds value, and what we don't value is often free.
Let's drive this home with an anecdote. Imagine you're fifteen, itching to buy your first car. You have a clear picture of your dream car and when you find it at a dealership, it costs $25,000. The owner gives you two options: take out a loan to buy it immediately or work every weekend for a year at the dealership, washing cars, and it's yours.
If you opt for the loan, you get the car right away, paying the physical cash equivalent of $25,000.
But if you opt to work weekends, washing cars, does this mean the car was free?
This is the perspective shift we need when interpreting relationships and idioms. Physical cash may accelerate the path to the end goal – a lucrative deal, or a marriage. Without the right explanation, the idiom can lead to physical expectations in return for physical payments, often leading to sex. It becomes transactional, akin to buying a pair of sneakers. And what happens when those sneakers get old or worn out?
There you are. Slouched on your much-loved couch, musing over a relationship that's teetering on the edge. Or contemplating delving into the endless void of online adult entertainment. You're in the throes of involuntary celibacy.
Your legs casually swing over the ottoman, while the TV blares out the day's news. But the clamour of news anchors isn't what resonates in your mind. You're wandering back to that memorable day after a nerve-wracking day of work.
Recall the tsunami of spreadsheets, non-stop flow of meeting requests, and the gnawing anxiety of approaching deadlines. You're home, mentally drained, physically exhausted.
And then she appears - your wife, in your favorite lingerie ensemble. Instantly, you're reminded of those electrifying nights of role-playing and domination. Sensuous kisses trickle down your neck, sending ripples of desire throughout your body.
She's astride you, rekindling your youthful vigor, taking you back to those wild spring break days, filled with tequila sunrises and Coronas.
But now, it feels like a lifetime ago. Where did that woman go? Did she fade away? Or did life simply tire her out?
Now, you might ask, "What on earth is the transmutation of sex?" It's a concept I stumbled upon while devouring Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich."
Transmutation is the act of changing or transferring one element or form of energy into another. Essentially, it means diverting your mind from thoughts of physical expression to thoughts of a different nature.
And guess what? This concept can be your secret weapon to achieving your wildest dreams!
Ever noticed how men in their fifties suddenly develop a newfound passion for tinkering in garages, mowing lawns, washing cars, or embarking on DIY projects? You might brush it off as a typical mid-life crisis.
But, there's more to it. As their sexual energies dwindle, they find new ventures to channel their newfound vitality. This redirection of sexual energy is, in essence, transmutation.
The result? An unparalleled level of focus and concentration that culminates in remarkable achievements.
So, your wife isn't keen on you releasing your pent-up sexual energy. Yes, it's frustrating, but don't let it drive you towards relationship suicide. Instead, channel this surplus energy to breathe life into dormant aspirations.
By concentrating on your long-forgotten dreams, rather than dissipating sexual energy, you can achieve the unthinkable!
So, my friend, let's bid adieu to the physical and say hello to transmutation.
Step into the enigmatic world of ghosting, where desire and uncertainty collide in a whirlwind of emotions. Like a captivating episode of the hit show POWER, let's delve into the story of Jamie St. Patrick and Angie Valdez to unravel the hidden truths behind the seductive allure of ghosting.
In the backdrop of Jamie's nightclub, Truth, Angie Valdez stumbles into his life, reigniting the flames of their high school romance. Sparks fly, and emotions run wild as they dive headfirst into a world of passion and intrigue. But little did Jamie know that Angie's entrance would set the stage for a tantalizing game of seduction.
Anecdote: Picture this: You're watching your favorite TV show, and just when you think you've figured out the plot, a character disappears without a trace, leaving you longing for answers. Ghosting works in a similar way, leaving you captivated, wondering what went wrong and craving closure.
Ghosting, my friend, is when you experience the highest highs with someone, only to have them vanish from your life. It's a rollercoaster of emotions, where your heart is filled with joy one moment and shattered the next. Just like a ghost, they leave you haunted by their absence.
The aftermath of ghosting can leave you mentally paralyzed. Those negative thoughts you thought were long gone suddenly resurface, mocking your self-worth. Depression creeps in, and self-esteem takes a nosedive. It's as if someone dropped a heavy brick in your bucket of happiness, weighing you down.
So, how do people pull off this vanishing act? It's simple—they go radio silent. No calls, texts, emails, or social media interactions. They disappear without a trace, leaving you in a bewildered state, wondering what you did wrong. The silence amplifies the mystery, making you desperate for answers.
But here's the twist: Ghosting has more to do with the entrance than the exit. It's a strategic move by someone who wants to be in your life but is unsure. By abruptly leaving, they create an unfinished story, leaving the door slightly ajar. And when they reappear out of the blue, doubts dissipate, and the door swings wide open.
Anecdote: I once fell victim to ghosting myself. Just when I thought the book was closed on a relationship, my ghost resurfaced, confessing that it was their own issues that led to their disappearance. And oh, they didn't hesitate to shower me with compliments, claiming I was perfect. I took the bait and swung that door wide open, unknowingly inviting them back into my life.
In the intricate game of ghosting, closure is a rare commodity. Ghosts slip away without explaining themselves, leaving you grappling with self-doubt. But remember, my friend, it's not about you—it's about their own uncertainties. They want a seamless reentry into your life, and by leaving you in the dark, they hold the power to effortlessly return.
Ghosting is a seductive game of entrances and exits, leaving you yearning for answers and closure. It's a psychological dance where the ghostly figure aims to keep you intrigued and waiting. But now that you understand the game, empower yourself to seek genuine connections built on honesty and open communication. Don't let the allure of unfinished stories keep you trapped in a cycle of uncertainty.
Picture this: You meet someone who becomes your confidant, your rock, your safe haven. They listen, support, and share countless memories with you. But what if, instead of recognizing them as a potential partner, you relegate them to the "bestie" zone? This is where best friend sabotage comes into play, revealing a deeper truth about hidden desires and the potential consequences it can have on your relationship.
We've all encountered that special someone who seems to be by our side through thick and thin. They introduce us to potential partners, cheer us on, and seem to have an uncanny knowledge of what we need. But behind their friendly facade lies a hidden message—they believe they're the one for you.
Anecdote: Think back to those carnival nights filled with laughter and joy. As you look through old pictures, a recurring theme emerges—one person who always stood out, capturing moments with you. It's as if fate has been trying to nudge you in their direction, but you've dismissed it as mere nostalgia.
You can't shake the thought that there might be something more between you and your best friend. The idea lingers, growing more persistent as time goes on. You muster up the courage to ask the question that has been haunting you: "Why haven't we dated?"
Their reaction surprises you—a mixture of relief and excitement. Suddenly, the floodgates open, and both of you realize the potential that has been simmering beneath the surface for so long. It feels like a beautiful dream coming true.
Anecdote: The first official date arrives, and you can't help but feel a surge of passion. But as the relationship progresses, cracks begin to appear. Arguments escalate, and suddenly, your best friend throws a past incident in your face—a situation you actually experienced with someone they had once introduced you to.
As the lens widens, you start noticing moments and comments that seem slightly off. The pieces of the puzzle fall into place, and you realize that your best friend has been orchestrating your relationships all along. They punished you for not recognizing their true feelings from the start.
It's a challenging realization. The person who knows you best, who has always been there for you, turns out to have their own agenda. Trust issues emerge, and the innocence of those nostalgic pictures fades away.
Best friend sabotage is a double-edged sword, revealing hidden desires and exposing trust issues. It's essential to recognize and address these dynamics early on to avoid damaging the relationship or friendship. Open communication and a shared understanding of intentions can help navigate the complexities and ensure that the bond remains strong, whether as friends or as life partners.
Share your experiences with best friend sabotage or bliss in the comments below.
We inhabit a world of coy introverts, individuals so delicate and introspective that the mere thought of social interaction sends shivers down their spines. Yet, there's an intoxicating allure in the prospect of being recognized, acknowledged, seen.
Amongst city wanderers, a large majority wear their introspection like a cloak, their minds brimming with thoughts they'd rather not punctuate with banal chatter. Their gaze is consistently downcast, but do you know what compels them to look up? A swanky pair of shoes.
Our introverted friend is not just shy, they're smart. Smart enough to perceive patterns, threat levels, and even narratives based on one's footwear. The silent dialogue between their gaze and your shoes is swift, but it's enough to twhe their curiosity about the rest of your story.
So, what happens next? Their gaze lifts, marking a quick pit-stop at your face, then it's off on a swift journey down your shirt, your pants, a nod at your accessories, and finally back to the shoes. Like ticking checkboxes along the way, they're formulating an impression of you.
What conclusion did they draw? Was their perception accurate? Did you, our hero, make the cut?
To validate their hypothesis, they engage in conversation. Just like that, you're no longer an abstract painting, but a vibrant dialogue.
In this context, remember Cinderella? Prince Charming found his true love, not based on her radiant beauty or virtuous character, but a single glass slipper. Through the power of her shoes, she transformed from a damsel in distress to a heroine. Without those magical slippers, Cinderella might still be sweeping ashes off her wicked stepmother's hearth.
I'm not saying that you absolutely need the perfect pair of shoes to find your Prince Charming, but I assure you, it makes the journey a lot smoother.
How many ladies slipped their feet into that fabled glass shoe, only to face rejection and a ring-less finger? Would you be one of them?
I'd love to hear about your own shoe escapades. What enchanting tales do your shoes narrate?
You know that moment, right? Strolling down a deserted street, just you, a guy and his girl. As you saunter closer, you notice the guy clutching her hand tighter or wrapping his arm around her waist. Yes, my friend, you've just caught a glimpse of Subconscious Paranoia in all its glory.
The answer is quite simple and yet so complex: he's marking his territory, but it's not about her - it's all about you.
Let's break it down, shall we?
If a woman is walking beside a man, society instinctively paints them as a couple. So, what instigated that sudden show of affection? It's a little thing called a confidence deficit.
Here's a short play-by-play. You're minding your own business when Mr. Paranoid spots you and instinctively pulls her closer. His mind's spinning tales of you swooping in and stealing his girl, hence, the subconscious paranoia. Clearly, confidence is not his strong suit.
Ironically, he wouldn't do the same if a woman walked by. Intriguing, right?
Have you ever experienced that nagging feeling when your girlfriend dons an outfit you deem "inappropriate," even though it fits just right? You're projecting your past gaze on every man that looks her way.
And what about her? Did she notice anything?
You bet she did!
The moment you grabbed her, you broke her focus. Suddenly, your energy felt weaker, and she could feel the shift. This ignited her curiosity, and her gaze followed yours to the perceived threat. Relationship game over.
Here's some unsolicited advice: stop clutching at her like she's your lifeline! You either need to:
Remember, the balance of a relationship depends on how you nurture it, not on how much you spend on it.
Have you ever found yourself engrossed in MTV's Catfish series, wondering about the nature of online relationships? As we follow along, we watch people claim to have fallen in love with someone they've never met in person. When they finally meet, things often take a surprising turn.
Our world can be astonishingly superficial. These participants fell in love with fantastic personalities online, yet, when faced with a different physical reality, the relationship often falls apart. This begs the question: were they ever really in love?
There are two categories of Catfish participants: the "bad catfish liar" and the "good catfish liar."
If you're a "bad catfish liar," you likely fell in love with the image presented to you, but when faced with a different reality, you're thrown off. Are you genuinely in love, or were you merely captivated by a perception?
On the other hand, the "good catfish liar" is someone who either represented themselves as less attractive than they are to secure their desired partner or a person lacking confidence in their physical appearance.
The essence of a person - their values, personality, and character - is what truly counts in love. The physical aspect is just the tip of the iceberg, representing only about 20% of the whole person. The remaining 80% comprises what is invisible to the eye - the mental and emotional aspects.
True love should be built upon this 80% mental connection. After all, isn't that the very fabric of love?
A major flaw, especially in the "good catfish liar," is the lack of confidence in their own physical appearance. What they fail to recognize is the power of mental and emotional compatibility, which, in fact, forms the crux of any successful relationship.
Jump into the swirling currents of affection like it's a hot tub party, but beware – just like that embarrassing tattoo from spring break, bad love investments can have lasting consequences. So, let's talk fiscal responsibility... but in the sexiest way possible, of course.
Remember that business you started? The one where you invested just a smidge, like dabbling your toes in the water before diving in? The same rules apply in the pool of passion. Start slow, learn the strokes and then, if it feels right, take the plunge.
Are you the romantic who showers your lover with gifts and lavish dates from the get-go? Hold your horses, Casanova! While it might seem like the quickest path to their heart, it can actually lead to a fiscal fiasco in your love life.
I once knew a guy who whisked his date off to a swanky dinner on their first meet. Sure, he impressed her, but when they ended up at a food truck for their next date, she was less than amused.
Remember, if you're starting with a bang, you better be ready to keep up the fireworks. And not just on July 4th.
Love is not a sprint; it's a marathon. And just like in a marathon, you want to pace yourself. Start too fast, and you'll find yourself out of breath and energy when you hit that inevitable relationship hill.
Ever wondered how negotiations and love are intertwined? Like any negotiation, love involves two or more parties willing to sacrifice something for a valuable gain.
Trust me, you're already in the business of sales! Picture this: You effortlessly persuade your friends to pick Ruth Chris for dinner because of their melt-in-your-mouth blue cheese topped steaks. Or you sell them on Red Robin for endless fries. Congrats, love! You've just successfully negotiated and sold steak dinners and bottomless fries without being on the payroll.
Think about it, if we channel this natural salesmanship into our love lives, we might be onto something, right?
So, let's spill some truths and share some laughs as we uncover the four steps to ace the negotiation of love:
We could all learn a thing or two from Bryson Tiller's "Exchange". He lays out his contract, stating his wants and sacrifices. But, does he fully deliver? That's where understanding the love contract comes into play.
Bottom line? Relationships are investments that should follow these four negotiation rules. So, take charge, decode the love contracts, and let's negotiate love like pros!
Remember, sweetheart, keep these tips handy next time you're negotiating love. Master the art, and you'll be sealing love deals like a pro. After all, love is an exhilarating negotiation game. Let's play it wisely and win big!
Buckle up, pals! What I'm about to drop isn't about painting you as a "bad apple" or schooling you on how to score in the bedroom. You've got it wrong if that's what you thought. Nay, nay, nay, and oh, did I say nay?
See, making love isn't really about the sexy times; it's all about the energy. Yes, sex has its place (Audi R8, 0-100, 3.5 seconds, remember?), but it's more about the long run. So, for the uninitiated, let me put it straight: men are nozzles, women are buckets. And trust me, it ain't rocket science.
So here's the rundown: women make men feel all the feels, and men, in turn, fill up those buckets. When a man's feeling the love consistently, he's in the 'momentum of love', or as the romantics call it, "in love." Similarly, when her bucket is consistently filled with love, she's in the momentum of love too.
Imagine a couple. Every day, she makes him feel loved, and in response, he fills her bucket with tokens of love. Could be sweet texts, thoughtful gifts, or his time - because let's face it, guys want to be where they feel the love. The more she makes him feel loved, the more he fills her bucket. If this goes on, the love energy reaches its zenith, and then - BAM! - sexual energy follows, and voila, we've got a thriving relationship on our hands!
But life isn't always rainbows and butterflies. What if negativity fills her bucket? Or he feels down? In such situations, you play the game of "opposites attract," but not in the way you might think. When one's down and the other's up, both must strive to find a middle ground.
Imagine a scenario where every phone call or meeting is a bombardment of negativity. Your job is to counter that negative onslaught with a blast of love. Ditto for him. If he's just venting about a lousy day at work, make him feel loved. The negativity diminishes as love takes over.
And guess what? Whoever starts the negativity loses. You both have to gulp down your negative vibes and fill up each other's buckets with love. You'll find that as love replaces negativity, your bucket gets filled with more love, making you forget the bad vibes - the same goes for him.
Remember this mantra, and you'll always find yourself in the momentum of love. And if you're single, keep your potential partner in the momentum of love. You'll be amazed at how quickly it morphs into a relationship.
And hey, if you need help with any relationship issues, don't hesitate to reach out. Leave a comment, drop me an email, or simply stay tuned for more nuggets of wisdom.
And always remember, put your happiness first, because through your happiness, others can envision their own. That's the essence of love - and let me tell you, it's fuching fantastic!