You have love backward (fishcat | catfish).

While watching Catfish the MTV series I realized one thing.

The world is too superficial.

I'm watching this show in which people claim they have fallen in love online, with people they have never met, or even seen live. They fall in love with these great people and then they meet and something goes awry.

To me, the question remains and one they need to ask themselves, "am I really in love"?

If you're really in love then so what they don't look like the person in the picture. This made me think of two things; good Catfish liars and bad Catfish liars.

If you look like your picture but you claim you're in love then you're a "bad catfish liar".

That is unless after you meet the person and they aren't the person in the picture you continue to love them.

Why do I call you a "bad Catfish liar"? You aren't representing your true self either. Pretending to be in love, sharing all your secrets, thoughts, and emotions based on how someone appears.

That's being in love with the idea of being with someone who you thought you would never in a million years be able to date, not the actual person, that makes you a liar.

Good Catfish liars? Please explain

The "good catfish liar" has two circumstances in my opinion.

The one who actually represented themselves worse than they actually are to get who they wanted.

That is the case in the movie Coming to America starring Eddie Murphy and Arsenio Hall. This is not what's going on here so I won't address it.

What I want to address is a perfectly good human being whose only flaw is their lack of confidence in their packaging or superficial appearance.

The two people appearing on the show match in every aspect except for the physical.

The physical is the iceberg, you only see the tip or 20%. Which means 80% of who that person truly is made up of what you can't see or mental. If you're an 80% mental match then you should be together because that's the stuff love is made of.

What I want to address is a perfectly good human being whose only flaw is their lack of confidence.

You have a recipe for relationship success when you find someone who makes you happy 100% of the time regardless of the 20% of them that is their appearance that society may say they lack.

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Are you fiscally responsible with love?

It does not matter what business you enter they all should start similarly.

"The only way to learn to swim is to get into the water".

When you jump into the game you have to keep in mind that everything escalates or grows. 

In business, you should invest very little in the beginning. This approach will allow you to be in the game without much loss to you, should you have to disembark from that business. Then once you're in the game you learn the game. Learning while participating is called real education. The more you understand the game the more you can invest providing that you can reasonably guarantee a return on your investment (ROI). Now that you understand the game, receiving a decent ROI you can invest more into the business.How does this relate to love?

Where do you begin?

Initially, you should be investing more mental cash than physical cash. At the beginning of any relationship, you should be spending more time than money.

When you invest too much at the beginning when the relationship begins to escalate or grow you will not be able to keep up with the pace.

If you can't keep up with the pace the relationship will end.

If your first date is to Ruth Chris (a high-end restaurant) for a steak, Applebees won't cut it. If you take her Applebees that would mean that you already don't treat her like you used too.

If you give him sex very early in the relationship because you wanted to keep him and you're not that sexually insatiable, you already don't treat him like you used to.

In business and in relationships you have to pace yourself.

You want to know why athletes, movie stars, billionaire tycoons can't keep one wife, it's because they invested too much physical cash in the beginning.

These men have expanded the buckets of these women and they can't keep it filled.

Expanding her bucket with premium energy, love, allows for a healthy escalation.

Some women go from one star to the next, not because they're gold diggers.

There is only one thing worse than an excuse, justifying. An excuse is an internal thing like I was tired so I didn't go to the gym this morning. You'll know the proverb "Excuses are tool of incompetence". However the justifying is far worse. Justifying is worse because you put the reason you couldn't do something on some outside factor. By outside factor I mean someone or something other than yourself. I didn't get up to go to the gym because sleep felt too good this morning. Sleep just became the reason you didn't go to the gym. Now that I think about it justifying is why my goals are always almost met. Maybe yours too.

What happens is this you get close to your goal and then you justify why you can't do something to the contrary of your goal.

So you don't know what I'm talking about. Let's take those last five pounds you can't seem to get rid of. You are so close to your goal and then you justify why it's finally ok to grab that piece of cake or your Auntie's famous Mac n' Cheese. We say it's only one meal and you will knock the calories off in the gym tomorrow. Only when it's time to hit the gym tomorrow you say you will pick it up tomorrow and on top of that you took home a plate. Now you're on day 2. Then you ate bad for two days and missed the gym you might as well take the week off, after all you have been working really hard over these last couple of months. I get it trust me. How do you think I can write about this? We justified that it is ok because we have worked so hard this far and it's your Auntie's Mac n' Cheese. So we blame Auntie's Mac for being so good. We blame the gym for always being open tomorrow. This is the suppression theory smacking you in the face. When you go to get on the scale, after the night of bingeing, it didn't move, so you didn't gain any weight. Then the day after that you've gained eight pounds. Now into your worst nightmare and everyone's same fate, you start to continue to gain weight. You're now justifying your gaining of weight by saying it's really difficult to lose those last five pounds and everyone seem to have the same result. So now your workouts aren't as intense because you cheated with the cheat meal and you let the meal defeat you. Like Auntie's Mac n' Cheese contained a get fat virus that at first slowly caused you to gain weight and then boom it rapidly expands. Nope this all happened because you justified why it was ok in the first place.

Justifying is like strategizing the excuse. If you look for someone or something to blame for you to not do what you didn't want to in the first place you will eventually find it. Conversely if you look for someone or something to blame for you doing what you wanted to do in the first place you will eventually find it.

Think about it like this, if you want to sleep with someone other than your significant other you have to justify the reason by blaming someone else or something else for you doing what you wanted to do in the first place. That guy or girl from work you "randomly" meet at the bar and have a few drinks, you then can blame Patron for why y'all slept together.

If you don't like someone you never even met, don't even know personally you justify it by saying you don't like them because of the way they dress or how they carry themselves. As if their dress code did something to you. You act like the way they carry themselves did some sort of injustice to you.

Justifying is also worse because it's about people pleasing. If you don't want to do something instead of being "allowed" to say no you don't want to do it, you have to give a reason (justification) as to why you don't want to do it. Here's the kicker YOU ARE ALLOWED TO SAY NO!

In most cases when you are not let off the hook for justifying you then dial it back to an excuse. Now that you have given an excuse most people don't want to beat you when you're down so they just leave you with your excuses, and we all know the Proverb "excuses are tools of incompetence".

"I appreciate everyone, everything, and every event, whether seen or unseen, that led to me being me at every stage of me."-Swagger Coach

Every time I explain this to a client they believe I'm about to give them a spiel about how they are fuching wrong, or that I'm going to teach them how to get laid. No, No, No, and oh I forgot No!

Making love isn't about sex, it's about energy. Sexual energy is for quick bursts like an Audi R8 going from 0 to 100 in 3.5 seconds. That may be the result but that's not the end, at least I hope not. I'll say it again incase you haven't read my numerous posts in which I mention energy; women have buckets and men have nozzles. Women make men feel and as a result men fill buckets. When men feel love on an ongoing basis he is said to be in the momentum of love; in love for short. When women consistently get thier buckets filled with love she is said to be in the momentum of love; in love for short. I hope you see where this is going.

Look at it this way... You have two people dating and everyday she makes him feel loved. He then fills her bucket with love. He may send her thoughtful text messages, give her gifts, and more importantly he will give her time. Men always want to be where they are loved the most. She will continue to make you feel loved and you will continue to fill her bucket with love. If this continues then love energy is going to be maximized. Once love is maximized sexual energy can then be released, and it will have been released in proper order. This generally results in a continued relationship.

How to make love when either her bucket is being filled with negative energy, or he feels negative?

When this happen opposites attract. I told you that opposite's attract was a true lie meaning that it's not necessarily a good thing. When one is up and one is down then one actually becomes less up and one becomes less down. With this in mind you have to find a happy medium. Let's say as soon as you hit the door or call her on the phone you get bombarded with negativity (regular). You have to immediately counteract that energy with love (premium). The same is true if he calls saying that he had a few bad moments at work you must immediately counteract that energy by making him feel loved. In effect he or she will become less negative going in the direction of love (premium). Whoever starts spewing the negativity first wins and the other person has to eat their negativity in order to counteract the negative energy with love. You will find that when you put your negativity to the side for love your bucket will get filled with love-making you forget about your negativity, the same is true for him.

If you keep this in mind you will always be in the momentum of love. If you're not in a relationship keep him or her in the momentum of love a see how quickly that turns into a relationship...

If you need assistance with any relationship, I will help; leave a comment, email me, or simply just stay tuned.

As always remember be fuching selfish and through witnessing your happiness others can view themselves the same.

What are the chains of love? This will explain my Attachment theory. I believe that everyone attached emotions to something. For example, think of your favorite song. Then ask yourself why is it your favorite song. Think of your favorite movie, year, anything, and ask yourself why is it my favorite. This provides you some comfort when you're uncomfortable.

I will explain this technique to you so that you are aware of it. Two things can happen either you already have something that is your favorite and I attach myself to that, or I will give you something to attach me to. I only have to find a moment. That moment will last a lifetime unless you replace it with another moment. I call this the emotional trigger and changing vests.

What I would do is this... before we get to that, think of this as the movie Inception. I realize there are several levels to your subconscious. In fact, starting in middle school I would actually tell women that I spoke to their subconscious and not their conscious mind. Therefore the things that I am saying to you during the day will wake you up with deep emotions for me. Hence my level of SWAG. Most guys care about that night I care about forever because that is my intention. But if we mix sexual energy before love energy then you're stuck with the virus... the idea. The idea that we could be together forever, that I AM just as emotionally attached as you are. When you find that I AM not, that would send you spiraling out of control. The problem is that I AM not the only one doing this and I only realized I did this because I now think about what I think about and what I thought about.

Think about yourself in a beauty pageant. It's the evening wear portion. You have your long flowing dress on. You're coming out to a slow jam, let's say Brian McKnight's Back at One. I pay attention because I know there is a reason you chose that song. It could have been your fathers' favorite song to play as you watched him and your mom dance in love.

I think your gorgeous and I make it a point to meet you after it's over. We chat for a bit, then exchange information. You're on an emotional high because although you may or may not have won the pageant you're elated at how beautiful you are and everyone is telling you that. You're so beautiful that most guys believe you're unattainable. That makes my hi all the more special. When I get you to my house about five songs in I decided to play roulette with the music and put on a couple of different jams mostly like medium-paced pop. But as we are getting to know each other better I change the song to guess what, Brian McKnight's Back at One. At this point, I come out of left-field with my questions forcing you to come back to the conversation but my intonation matches the rhythm of the song. We laugh and laugh, smile and flirt all the while this appears to be innocent. At this point I ask, are you thirsty? I get up to get you water or a drink, it's up to you. What I'm doing is letting the song play. We laughed I took you out of the past and brought you to the present and then left you there to go back to the past.

Since you went to the past and I brought you back to the present with laughter, you will actually take the smiles back with you to the past.

Now it's not your parents that you see, it's you and I. The song is over and the next song is something overly sexual and blatant like R. Kelly's It Seems Like You're Ready. I tell you how this is a classic. Now you're really tuned into the words of the song. Again my intonation... During this song, I ask, why you chose that song? You begin telling me and I interrupt you by getting closer to your face. We quickly escalate and now... my big feelings are going into your deep emotions. This makes your heart pump giving you an almost primal instinct for love like when Neo saved Trinity. Depending on when this
happens will make all the difference in terms of our future. Either way, emotionally, I have been in your life since the moment that song was stamped on your lifeline... Now I'm chained to your emotions and you have to start back at one.

If you need assistance with any relationship, I will help; leave a comment, email me, or simply just stay tuned.

As always remember to be fuching selfish and through witnessing your happiness others can view themselves the same.

The mantra this year has been "you faked it until you made it, now what?" Let's give that idea some thought. Ladies maybe you didn't think deeper about my posts on Barbie Dolls, Baby Dolls, and Boys but I told you that when boys are playing we are learning how to dominate other men, competitiveness, comradery, and strategy. This gives us an advantage. What happens to the guys who aren't outside learning those things?

They are seeking advice...

If you are doing this in a Hitch sort of way, where you have a girl that you want to attract and then you're seeking advice on the approach and such, that's cool. The fact that you have humbled yourself lets me know that you know who you are. It lets me know that you know your limitations. It even lets me know that you're a go getter and are willing to do whatever it takes to achieve your goal, that is cool. In fact its real cool.

Now for the others...

You couldn't get the girl in high school. You couldn't get the girl in college. You can't get the girl in life. You're now angry.  If you read the suppression theory post then you understand what is really going on. You suppressed all of those sexual desires for so long. I get it. You got bullied as a kid, so you became a Sensei. If you're now beating up people who aren't trained you're now the bully, genius. It takes a weak dude to convince themselves that I'm going to go out and get a girl to "smash" that night. I get that your scoop and score record is impeccable now that you have been "trained", but is that the point? Is the point to be running around after you have been "trained" to fight against the untrained, really? That is what makes you a fuching weak dude. That girl that you are meeting for the first time isn't your highschool, college, or life crush, she's an unsuspecting victim. She doesn't realize that you have a clamp on the nozzle. I'm even giving you credit for mastering the skill.

No man filled with premium energy (love energy) says to himself "man she's beautiful, I want her for tonight". Sexual energy can be bottled, it's called alcohol. The problem with this form of sexual energy is that it's very volatile. You're normal mode is over written by the bottled sexual energy. But it is clear that you can only be trained to get the girl and thus have to keep repeating the cycle. Get the girl to share her emotions meanwhile you're holding onto yours, I get that, trust me. What is really happening is that you have developed this persona that isn't really you. Maybe you took on the personality of your trainer utilizing some muchismo mannerisms that you believe excites women. You can't keep that up forever because... you faked it until you made, but now what?

If you need assistance with relationships, I will help; leave a comment, keep reading, or simply just stay tuned.

As always remember be fuching selfish and through witnessing your happiness others can view themselves the same.

Looks like a duck, talks like a duck, walks like a duck, so it must be a duck.

This simple correlation is why women have so many problems during the selection process. Why do you fall for the same things over and over again? I'll tell you why your heuristic mapping is wrong. Maybe you never heard of heuristics. A quick definition of heuristics is making something that's overly complicated into something overly simple. Let's take our first line and break it down. Yes, I will break it down for men too, so both sexes can gain some insight.

Women will say it looks like a duck, so it must be a duck. You will come to this conclusion rather quickly. This works in test-taking too. More often than not the first answer you thought of is the right answer, because heuristics it's the one you're going to choose. That gives the impression that you're super smart, which in a lot of cases is true. That's great! Heuristics work in most cases however it can be off a bit, based on how your mind is mapped. So if you see a guy and he's dressed clean, that may lead you to believe he's disease-free. If you see a guy and he's in a suit you may determine that he's important somewhere. But the most important thought that you have that will constantly get you into trouble is the thought that men think with the wrong head... That is an oversimplification of an overly complicated process.

Here's how we think

It looks like a duck, talks like a duck, walks like a duck, so it must be a duck. This is called inductive reasoning. This inductive reasoning is an experienced-based approach to problem-solving. We had to have seen a duck. We had to have heard a duck talk. We had to have witnessed a duck walking. These experiences we draw on to come to the conclusion that it's a duck. Everything here lately has been about our primal ancestors. How we eat, how we work out, and now our approach to dating. We have been taught strategy since we were boys playing outside. If we married the first girl we fell in love with then women would not have this problem. But since that is rarely the case they have to deal with the consequences of our battle strategies. Women, generally speaking, care about the survival of the offspring we men care about the survival of ourselves. This means, to us, we have to survive in order for the tribe to survive. Inevitably we get hurt by our first love. We need to develop a way to avoid this injury again. With each time we "conquer" a woman we become more developed in our skill. Some of us become so developed in our skills that it plays mental abuse to us. We are not sure if you did the things you did last night because you liked us or because of our battle strategy. This is the reason why time is needed on both parts.

Time allows both of us to feel safe and not mix the energies. Love energy has to be released and accepted before sexual energy or this will automatically cancel out the relationship. The reason it appears that we think with the "wrong head" is that sexual energy is the energy we need for battle. Since our bodies are preparing to do battle, you get that first. Until we develop our confidence the same feeling we get when we are about to get into a fight is the same feeling you get when we approach. Our bodies can't tell whether we are in front of a Sabertooth Tiger or a woman. Once we realize that we are not in an actual battle and we feel safe that you are no longer trying to hurt us, then we will release love energy. This is released and accepted by face-time, whether on the phone or in-person doesn't matter, we just need to be interacting with each other.

Women you can avoid the pitfall of relationship heuristics and we can avoid the pitfalls of our relationship inductive reasoning through time. We need to invest time in each other in order for our investments to appreciate. Land or foundation is the only thing that never depreciates. We all just need to make sure we invest in the right plot.

This is an epic post because there are concepts in this post that I know you never heard before, I believe they will change your outlook going forward.

If you need help with relationships, I will help, leave a comment, keep reading, and stay tuned.

As always remember to be fuching selfish and through witnessing your happiness others can view themselves the same.

I told you guys years ago that men and women can't be friends, at least not until after you're married. You want to know what happens... why you ended up in the friend zone... it's because of you. Yep, I said YOU are the fuching problem. I need you to become so negative at the idea of being someone's "friend" that you never decide to put yourself there again. Several things are going on, and they all point at YOU.

Let's revisit this post. Oh, this post was good too. The first thing you need to realize is that the two of you didn't just walk up to each other and say, "I want to be your friend." There was something that attracted the two of you to each other. You can make the argument that school or work is what attracted the two of you together. That is the lowest self-esteem way of thinking, and you need to get rid of it right now. RE-Lease the contract you have with that idea right now. You two may have been in the same place as a class or work, but you're hanging out after class or work, which rules that out genius.

Now that you have realized that the two of you are attracted to each other, we have to address your confidence. You had the confidence to engage in the after-hour activity. No, that doesn't mean sex, but after class or after work, keep up. My mantra for 2015 is this "You faked it until you made it, now what?" You faked having SWAG, now what? Unless you really have SWAG and don't believe it. Okay, if you needed someone to confirm whether you have it or not, I will. YOU do! You just now have to act on it. That brings us to the meat and potatoes of what is really going on.

You have to understand energy, its uses, and how it works. If you are a male and are trying to win the heart of that lucky female, who at present thinks she's just your friend. She's not your friend, bro. She's the object of your affection. So what are you doing wrong? You are leaving her hanging. Imagine your car and its gas tank. Your car is her. You fill her up with premium (love energy). You take her to do all things that most would say is romantic. It can't be romantic unless there's romance genius. So you fill her gas tank up with love. Love can't give her a full tank, though. For her to be full, you have to give her super high-octane or sexual energy. If she doesn't get this from you, you make it easy for any bum off the street to get your girl because she will attribute all that love energy to him when he gives her the sexual energy. All your hard work is taken away by me! The more confident gentleman. When I come along, you have done all the work for me. I need to give her some sexual energy, and you're now officially on the back burner, and I now get to decide your fate. But you're more confident than you realize. Oh, this is a classic "I don't want to ruin the friendship. Something is better than nothing, right?" Hell no! Something is only better than nothing when only something is what you want. Suppose you want more than you have to get more. Here's a tip. Stop being fuching timid and tell her how you feel. Timidity is something you only experience when there's a lack of confidence. Take her saying that she wants to be friends one of two ways: 1. Either she's just as scared as you are and is letting you off the hook by saying she wants to be "friends." 2. You're not man enough at the moment. You have to create the impulse buy. It's like the commercial that says I have this great deal for you, but it only lasts today, so don't miss out. Suppose she mentions friends again; you never speak to her again. She's going to wonder what happened, and you tell her that you wanted more, no further explanation, walk away. That level of confidence will give her a sexual charge boom; she better makes a decision and soon. Now that you have all this confidence in yourself, girls like her will be magnetized to you and come from all directions.

If you're a girl, you just have to have confidence in yourself. Float with this air of confidence and wait for him to come to you. You could release the tension a little bit by putting him in situations that force him to make a decision. Like when you're face-to-face for whatever reason, and you grab him and wait for him to kiss you. If he doesn't then, he doesn't have the confidence to be with you, and he will never be able to fill your bucket, so on to the next. Women have it so easy in this game. All you have to do is have confidence. We'll do the rest. If we aren't doing the rest, then you need to think about what you're attracting. You discover what you're attracting by thinking about the things you think about. Get you a list of all the things you want in a man. I don't care what you put on the paper; he better have it. If you can't check off every item, you know what's going to happen. You will let your confidence choose your mate, and then you will attract the one you really wanted...

The moral of the story is that you have to be confident. There is no such thing as opposite-sex besties. One of you is not keeping it real. I'm here for you. Leave a comment below to let me know your thoughts. Oh, if you want a shortcut to learning about buckets and nozzles checkout this, that, and the other thing. If you suppress how you feel when it explodes, it's going to be the wrong time, expressing the wrong ideas, and will not be perceived the way you want.

If you need help with relationships, I will help leave a comment, keep reading, and stay tuned.

As always, remember to be fuching selfish, and through witnessing your happiness, others can view themselves the same.

Not Really.

It's not the size of the gift, it's the feeling that it generates.

If you get this feeling of oneness and enjoyment from the gift it can be as small as a thimble or as large as a Mansion.

In the end, it's all about the feeling it generates.

When does size matter, if ever?

Size matters in two cases; when she is emotionally empty or he has low self-esteem.

If her bucket is empty, meaning she can't get premium energy, then your sexual energy has to go deep.

You to have a very large capacity for sexual energy to compensate for her lack of premium energy (love).

If she can't get love then size matters.

But let us say you fill this same young lady's bucket with love.

You fill it to the top leaving only room for sexual energy.

Then you don't have to have a large capacity for sexual energy because she already has everything she needs.

A large capacity for sexual energy at the point is an added bonus.

Your concern for size only comes as a result of a lack of confidence.

You have to know going in that if she's not a virgin then she may or may not have had her bucket expanded.

As long as you can fill it, it doesn't matter.

If you fill her bucket with your energy his energy will either get burned off or pushed out. So there is no need to lack confidence or develop any anxiety.

To summarize size only matters when there is a lack of premium energy.

Let me put on my chauvinistic hat for a moment. Back in the not-so-distant past women didn’t work they stayed home tending to the kids, home, and husband when he gets there. When men went to work in the factory or on a farm, we didn’t have options. We were around each other all day, so we couldn’t wait to get home to our wives, who know their value. Somewhere along the lines women misunderstood their value and began working outside the home. You'll begin wanting credit for your great ideas. All of the most successful men in the world did not reach that status until he found love, which means to me all of the great ideas of the world were either inspired or invented by women.

Now you’re in the market place, everywhere. It’s a smorgasbord of women, with various packaging, it’s like being three and walking into Toys R’ Us for the first time. Think of it this way; go to the buffet, grab you a plate of one thing, sit down, and see how long you can resist grabbing a plate of something else. Now relate that to why relationships now last three years or less. But imagine the only store in town that sells my favorite food at a really premium price. See what I won’t do, or what price I’m willing to pay, for my favorite food, get it, good. It has a high value to me so therefore I will make the sacrifice for it.

In all successful negotiations, there is something that they’re willing to give up for something they want. I want to have a reason to spend big bucks in both mental and physical cash. The key is that it has to have a high return on investment. This means that whenever I spend cash on, be it mental or physical, it has to appreciate. This means that the value has to increase. You’re selling a relationship or better yet marriage and I’m buying if the price is right. In exchange for your relationship, I have to give up time, affection, and all other options for YOU. See in this fashion you gave up something and I gave up something. These items must have a perceived equal value. If they are not then you will eventually have a conflict of interest, which is disastrous in terms of the deal.

There are three levels to this negotiation. At each level, the exchange must be equal and mutually agreed upon. At each level, the man must be the buyer.

1. Man and Woman
2. Boyfriend and Girlfriend
3. Husband and Wife

If both sides of the agreement feel in any way that the sacrifice and benefits are organized in a way to gain interest for one party, then this will end in doom. Think of your most perfect relationship in which the couple always seems to be in bliss. You will notice that they both feel equal in all aspects. This happens whether or not she goes to work or any such barrier in today’s relationships. There is nothing more encouraging to a man than when he realizes the value of his woman is appreciating.

I want to do all my thinking at work and you do all your thinking at home. The plight of today’s women is this; women nowadays have to think at work and at home, and I only want to think at work. This creates a double duty for the woman. This creates an imbalance in the negotiations. If she has to perform double duty, what then is the need from me? There is only one thing that she will need from me if she has to perform double duties. Couples that are unbalanced can’t come to compromise in arguments. There is always going to be one left feeling subordinate. This will end in doom.

Men remember although we are less in volume and in quality, there are still options in the market place for her to upgrade. “Going soft is a habit, you have to keep yourself mean” this is an interesting quote and one I use every day.  This quote is from the movie “Sleepers” but it applies to all aspects of life. If you do not keep in tip-top shape in regards to everything something will inevitably fall to the wayside. As the statement goes, how you do one thing is how you do everything.

You are a rib from my Prime body but you claim to be independent. You claim you can’t find a good man but you’re always at the CLUB---HOUSE. See men and women are one; Broken apart so we know the other exists. There could not be MAN without WOMAN. Therefore, independence is possibly im---poss---ible.

Let’s begin with where your duality was created. I am your nightmare and your dream; it’s all in how you view yourself or me as a reflection of you.

First you hate me, then you love me, then you hate me again but that’s just the cycle of YOU. I said Hi; you smiled and fixed your hair back. Here comes the dream. I noticed that you pulled back your hair, that’s a move your subconscious told you to make. So, I begin changing my tune to match that so rhythmically and smooth noise in the background. Oh no, you’re engaged but not engaged like you have a ring on your finger, but engaged like your holding on to my every word but wait, we’re in the CLUB---HOUSE, think. How can I say this, it doesn’t matter, you can’t really hear me. So actuality and reality are beginning to create your duality.

Your dream is becoming your nightmare; I’m telling you this but you can’t hear me, again we’re at the CLUB---HOUSE.

So you hear me whispering sweet lullabies but actually, we’re discussing my options for taking you home and that sounds like commitment. Your move! Oh, a giggle that’s cute because now you think I’M engaged; not engaged like totally into the conversation; engaged as you gave me a ring and I said YES! Not like the yes as in we’re getting married, but the yes like SCORE! Now somehow we’ve left the CLUB---HOUSE.

I’m still talking at a tone that matches the noise in the background, only that noise is in the foreground. We’re moaning and groaning which you interpret to be love, I interpret it to be lust, but either way, it feels good, so let’s not stop here. We keep going like closed caption at the bottom of the screen displays ♬♬♬♬, moan, groan, ♬♬♬♬. Then ahhh we both have emancipated proclamation; but I’m the only one that’s free to move like the Sandman, going from dream to dream. I told you that you were in a nightmare but you saw dreams.

I thought how could that be?

So tomorrow’s today is you are back at the CLUB---HOUSE. The next person you meet actually whispers sweet lullabies but you see a nightmare and he recognizes that by how standoffish you are, so now it’s on. You have just engaged him, but not like the engaged like about to be in a marriage or into the conversation, but just like a battle and you are showing him that you’ve been hurt and don’t trust but all he hears is CHALLENGE’! This ultimately has him counter punching like Mayweather and you’re seeing a nightmare so outlandish that it must be a dream. Uh-oh your guard is down and down goes Frasier. Just when that nightmare turned into a dream it quickly turned back to a nightmare and you’re back at the Club---House.

Not realizing that the man you want is you! So if you don’t recognize the person in front of you or don’t speak the same language he’s not you! You are perfect in every way. I am Prime therefore you must be also. The only difference is for you to truly get a piece of me it’s going to cost you and I should have a price to pay as well, but to this point, you have been giving everything to me for FREE. It’s your value you don’t see or understand. Once you do then you will get what you want for what you are selling. Your nightmares will become dreams; your actuality will become your reality, thus removing your duality! The value system is the simplest and most complex ideology.

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One more day until the weekend, what comes second to this? Show and tell. First Graders’ bring in stuffed animals who may be missing an eye. It might be a blanket that hasn't been washed in weeks. Buzz Lightyear no longer lights up, probably missing his laser or even a wing. How can he combat Zorg with no laser or a wing to help him fall in style?

As onlookers of this presentation of love, you sit in awe. It almost brings you to tears when you witness this blatant show of affection toward their toys. They each one by one came in front of the class to tell you stories about their favorite toys. You enjoy hearing the genesis of love, real amor. You can see the way they smile, hold and care for their fantastic little baubles that to them is priceless and means the world.

If the person you’re dating doesn’t treat you like that then stop and leave them alone. You both should be each other’s favorite. Treat every day like it's show and tell Friday. These toys have been in their life for years. Missing pieces, paint, they may not work like they used to but they still love and can’t wait to put this love on display. You are only being told you’re loved. Settling for being brought out of the toy box only at night and not carried around all day. Jumping out of the metaphor you have a hard choice to make; settle for being told I love you or find someone who truly loves you. Stop answering the phone at 1 in the morning unless y’all just left each other.

Usher told you what you were experiencing with each lyric of his chart topping hit “You Got It Bad”. It only counts if both of you “got it bad”. If you want to know how to find someone who got it just as bad as you, contact me or leave a comment below.