Okay, listen up! It's time to face the hard truth I told you years ago: men and women can't just be friends, at least not until after you're married. Wondering why you ended up in the friend zone? Well, I'll be blunt—it's because of you. Yep, I said it. YOU are the freaking problem. But fear not, my friend, because I'm here to guide you out of that abyss. Get ready for a reality check that will make you swear off the friend zone forever. Let's dive in!
Let's set the record straight. You didn't just walk up to each other and say, "Hey, let's be friends." There was something that initially sparked your interest. You could argue it was school or work that brought you together, but that's a low self-esteem way of thinking, and it's time to toss that idea out the window. Release the contract you have with that notion. Sure, you may have crossed paths in class or at work, but the fact that you're hanging out beyond those obligations should clue you in, genius.
Now, let's talk about confidence. You had the confidence to engage in those after-hours activities. No, not necessarily sex (keep up, will you?). I've got a mantra for you: "You faked it until you made it, now what?" You faked having SWAG, and guess what? Unless you're truly oblivious, you've got it! The time has come to unleash your inner charisma and start acting on it. And now, let's get to the juicy stuff.
Energy, my friend, is the secret ingredient. If you're a guy trying to win over that lucky lady who currently sees you as just a friend, let me set things straight—she's not your friend, bro. She's the object of your affection, the apple of your eye. So, what are you doing wrong? You're leaving her hanging. Picture this: your car and its gas tank. Your car represents her, and you fill her up with premium love energy. You take her on romantic outings and do everything that screams "romance." But here's the catch—it's not truly romantic unless there's genuine passion, genius. To fill her tank to the brim, you need to provide that super high-octane, sexual energy. If you fail to give her that, you make it easy for any random person off the street to swoop in and steal her heart by delivering that missing piece. You've done all the groundwork for me—the more confident gentleman. I just need to provide that sexual energy, and voilà, you're officially on the back burner, while I decide your fate. But here's the kicker—you're more confident than you realize.
Ah, the classic "I don't want to ruin the friendship" dilemma. Is something better than nothing? Hell no! Something is only better than nothing if that's all you truly want. But if you crave more, you've got to go out and get it. Here's a tip: stop being freaking timid and tell her how you feel. Timidity only arises when confidence is lacking. Take her saying she wants to be friends in one of two ways: 1. She's just as scared as you are and is letting you off the hook with the "friends" label. 2. You're not man enough in her eyes—at least not yet. You need to create that impulse buy, like those limited-time offers you see in commercials. Suppose she brings up being friends again; you cut ties without further explanation. She'll be left wondering what happened, and you simply tell her that you wanted more. No need to elaborate. Walk away with that level of confidence, and trust me, she'll feel a surge of attraction. Boom! She better make a decision, and fast. With your newfound confidence, girls like her will be magnetized to you from all directions.
Ladies, here's the deal. You just need to embrace your confidence and let him come to you. But if you want to release some of that tension, put him in situations that force him to make a decision. Picture this: you're face-to-face for whatever reason, and you grab him, waiting for that long-awaited kiss. If he doesn't seize the moment, he lacks the confidence to be with you. And guess what? He'll never be able to fill your bucket, so it's on to the next one. Women have it easy in this game—all you need is confidence. We'll take care of the rest. And if we're not stepping up, then it's time to reevaluate what you're attracting. It all starts with your thoughts. Make a list of all the things you want in a man, and I mean every single thing. If he can't check off every item, well, you know what's going to happen. Let your confidence guide your choices, and watch as you attract the partner you truly desire.
Here's the bottom line: confidence is key. There's no such thing as opposite-sex besties—at least not in the way you think. Someone is not keeping it real. But fear not, I'm here for you. Leave a comment below to share your thoughts. Oh, and if you want a shortcut to understanding buckets and nozzles (you'll get it, trust me), check out this, that, and the other thing. Suppressing your feelings will only lead to explosions at the wrong time, expressing the wrong ideas, and being misunderstood.
If you need help with relationships, I'm here to assist. Leave a comment, keep reading, and stay tuned.
And always remember, be freaking selfish—through your happiness, others can find inspiration within themselves.
When it comes to assessing whether someone has cheated up or down, it's not an easy task. We cannot truly comprehend their vantage point. However, let's delve into the logic behind this concept and attempt to gain a deeper understanding.
In relationships, we often choose a partner based on the belief that we are getting their maximum potential. This means they possess about eighty percent of the qualities we desire in a mate. This baseline becomes the standard for our expectations.
For women, finding a mate sets a new baseline. Let's say your first partner had a car. The next partner you choose must meet or exceed that baseline by having a car and something additional, such as a job. The perception here is that women cheat up, constantly seeking to expand their baseline and attract partners who offer more.
For men, the goal is to expand their "bucket" of energy by attracting more partners. This can create the perception that men cheat up. However, there's a twist. When men find a partner who aligns with their maximum potential, they commit, believing they have found everything they desire in one place. From this perspective, men cheat down when they step away from this committed relationship, seeking a partner who presents fewer challenges or headaches.
Both men and women navigate this complex landscape by employing what we call "game." It involves presenting ourselves as the maximum version of what our potential mate desires, even if we haven't fully reached that potential. By attracting partners based on our minimum, we have room to grow and impress them with our hidden qualities. This way, they appreciate us more as they discover our full potential.
Attracting a mate based on our minimum allows us to appreciate in value. As they initially perceive us as smart, attractive, and well-rounded, they are yet to witness our full potential. When they eventually discover our additional qualities, such as financial stability or domestic skills, their admiration and appreciation grow.
Men tend to pick partners based on their maximum confidence level. However, when faced with relationship challenges or overwhelming situations, they may seek partners at a lower level to reduce headaches—cheating down. On the other hand, women establish a baseline and expand their energy bucket, seeking partners who offer more to meet their evolving needs—cheating up. Employing game allows both men and women to present their minimum potential, paving the way for growth and mutual discovery.
Let's take a spin into the world of car sales – an unexpected yet potent metaphor for the dating game. You pull up to the dealership, your eyes scanning the shiny parade of potential new rides. Here, the salesman doesn't need to sell you a car. You're already in the market. His task? Simply to match your desires with an option at a price the dealership approves. Now, let's cruise this concept into the dating realm...
If someone finds your exterior appealing, they're likely to approach you. It's the law of attraction. Now, all you need to do is to strike a balance between what they want and what you can offer. Take, for instance, the age-old trade-off in dating: a man gives a woman attention; in return, she offers intimacy. But there's a catch – more often than not, the exchange ends there. It's a hasty transaction, skipping the potential for depth.
But consider this: what if he approached her offering time and attention? This time, she's winning. There had to be a reason he approached in the first place. Through a series of chats, he reveals his true desire: a relationship. As this dance continues, his emotional investment grows. When he's truly hooked, that's when she can sell him a relationship on her terms. Sound familiar? It mirrors the protracted process of buying a car.
Society often equates physical fitness with 'Alpha' status. But what if one doesn't fit the societal mould of a chiseled Greek god? Enter the world of the charismatic, confident, 'business developer' types. These are the ones who, despite not being gym buffs, exude confidence and an exceptional eye for detail. They've nailed the packaging, understand the walk, and have mastered the talk.
This breed of 'business developers' have a unique challenge. They must seek out clients (potential partners) and prove their worth. In social situations, they face numerous tests to their 'Alpha' status. And believe me, being an Alpha is all about readiness and resilience, something I'll delve deeper into in my upcoming GentleMANliness series.
The 'business developer' approach to dating might seem more demanding than the casual 'car salesman' method. However, business developers suggest better ways to invest your 'mental cash', such as time, on things that appreciate over time, rather than instant gratification that often depreciates.
Let's be clear, this post isn't to disregard the fit and fabulous. Instead, it's a rallying cry for those who may not fit the conventional attractiveness mould to understand their unique value in the relationship market. It's time to ponder: Who truly reaps more rewards, whether in mental or physical 'cash'?
Stay tuned, as we dive deeper into the nuances of GentleMANliness.
As always, remember to be unabashedly selfish and radiate your happiness. It's infectious. After all, "If you can't see your success, change your vantage point."
Greetings, lovers! Ever felt like a wild panther, stealthy and tantalizing, yet misunderstood? If you've ever identified with the smoldering allure of Edward Cullen from Twilight, you're in the right place.
“I'm the world's most dangerous predator. Everything about me invites you in...I'm designed to kill.” Powerful, isn’t it?
Like me, perhaps you've experienced moments where your internal predator surfaces, where your inner sexuality roars like a lion. Confused? Allow me to clarify. Men are often labeled as the alpha or the puppy, women as the vixen or the serial monogamist. All these roles boil down to one thing: a potent sexual energy, a force that magnetizes others towards you. This, my friend, is the real origin of being “thirsty” – a thirst for power born from sexual magnetism.
The predator within us craves a challenge. We're fashion savvy, our outfits meticulously chosen to stand out from the crowd. Whether it's a deliberately disheveled look or a high-end ensemble, it's designed to enthrall, to intrigue, to invite you in. It's a siren's song in the form of a Versace suit or a little black dress.
Oh, those seemingly spontaneous encounters with a charming stranger? As unplanned as they may seem, they're actually tactical maneuvers, akin to a grandmaster's move in chess. And just like in the Greek myth, we predators can be sirens, enticing others towards us, using our melodic voices to weave a web of enchantment. We master the art of conversation, spinning tales that keep you hooked, while we carefully avoid revealing too much about ourselves. Our true lies and deceptive truths create a hypnotic dance that seduces you into our world.
Remember the time you casually mentioned your preference for hard candy, and I playfully turned it into a risqué innuendo? Ah, those were fun times. It's this subliminal language of seduction that keeps the conversation stimulating, raising the sexual tension, yet keeping it playful and mysterious.
But it's not all about sight and sound; let's talk about smell. Our heightened sexual prowess releases pheromones - undetectable yet powerfully compelling. Like animals sensing danger or attraction, these pheromones create an instinctual reaction, a primal call that's impossible to ignore.
How to combat this seductive onslaught? The answer is surprisingly simple – get to know us. In doing so, you flip the script, turning the predator-prey dynamic into an engaging dance. After all, isn't the ultimate relationship challenge more exciting than fleeting sexual conquests?
Being a sexual magnet isn't about scoring or winning. Instead, it's about creating a connection that transcends the physical, a crossing of paths that steers you towards the success you desire. It’s a beautiful crossing of paths that changes the course of your life, setting your GPS for a successful love journey.
So, be unapologetically selfish in pursuing your happiness. Like I always say, “If you can’t see your success, change your vantage point”.
In the realm of attraction, there's a hidden secret called Swag. It's all about being the most different, the most Alpha, and not caring how others perceive you in the moment. This concept may seem elusive, but once you grasp it, you can manipulate perceptions and create intrigue.
As mentioned before, keeping her engaged while focusing on the worst of the pack is the key. By creating a competition between the second and third in command, who often resemble each other, you can impress and intrigue her with your Swag. It's important to understand that her attitude stems from the responsibility of providing for the pack and maintaining their confidence.
In the world of Swag, it's not about feeding physical bellies but rather egos and mental gas tanks. Remember, you want to cater to her friends, not her attitude. By understanding this distinction, you can avoid unnecessary trouble. It's worth noting that providing insights in a concise and engaging manner is vital, as too much information can overload the brain and shut it off.
Moral of the story: The girl who may appear to have an attitude due to excessive sexual advances actually carries that attitude because her friends lack such experiences. Instead of choosing one, it's beneficial to embrace and respect the whole pack. This approach can lead to unexpected dividends, which I'll explain later.
Always remember to prioritize your own happiness and be unapologetically selfish. By embracing your Swag and experiencing fulfillment, you inspire others to do the same.
Listen up, my single and ready-to-mingle folks! Ever wonder why being single feels like you're stuck in a dating Groundhog Day? Here's a little secret, just between you and me. You might not want what you're attracted to, and that's okay. The real conundrum here is, you could be luring in someone else's dreamboat. I can hear you gasping, "But why, oh why, am I a magnet for the wrong 'wants'?" Buckle up, we're about to dive deep!
Let's face it - those washboard abs or that stunning smile might be eye-candy, but are they truly what you want? Or is it possible that you've just been seduced by someone else's fantasy? You see, when you're busy daydreaming about someone else's dream date, you're likely to miss what you truly need.
And if you're a bit clueless about your needs, welcome to the eternal circle of singledom! But don't fret, there's a way out. The moment you discover your needs, you can start catering to your wants, and boy, what a game-changer that is!
Here's the juiciest part: Once you've made sense of your needs and wants, you become a pro at spotting the misfits. And those who do qualify? They'll stand out like a red rose in a field of daisies. You'll start to see the signs, feel the vibes, and recognize your potential match when they strut into your life.
This process all begins with a single thought – YOU. Yes, my dear single souls, it's time to put yourself in the center of your love life, making your needs and wants the main characters of your romantic saga.
Remember, the journey from singlehood to finding your match starts with understanding your own needs and wants. So, let's start "Flipping Your Down Days" and create a love life that's sizzling with potential!
From puberty, men are often driven by sex, which fuels their ambitions and life goals. However, this is not just about sex; it's also about power and attraction. Understanding this dynamic can help women navigate the complex game of attraction and relationships.
Sex is often misconstrued as sharing emotions. While it involves some level of emotional exchange, true emotional sharing requires mutual giving and receiving. When men approach relationships, they are ready for sex, not necessarily for emotional sharing.
Tension is a powerful tool in the dating game. Men use it to control the emotional trigger, escalating from happiness to physicality, building sexual tension. This tension is never released, leading to an intriguing, yet complex dynamic.
A common misunderstanding in relationships is equating sex with shared emotions. If a woman believes that sex equates to happiness for a man, the emotional balance is disturbed. The man knows her, but she doesn't truly know him. This imbalance often results in hurt feelings and confusion.
The solution to this problem lies in mutual understanding and shared emotions. The conversation should not be one-sided; both partners should engage and learn about each other. This process creates a buildup of emotions, like a volcano ready to erupt, leading to an explosive emotional connection.
In today's fast-paced world, people often rush into physical intimacy without truly knowing each other. This rush often leaves one party emotionally unsatisfied. Patience and taking the time to learn about each other can lead to a deeper emotional connection, surpassing physical satisfaction.
Engaging each other mentally and emotionally is the cornerstone of a successful relationship. This engagement creates an emotional tension that heightens attraction. When both parties are genuinely interested in each other, they create a connection that goes beyond physical attraction.
Men may seem simple, but like a game of chess, they are complex beings with layers to uncover. Understanding them requires patience, engagement, and mutual sharing of emotions.
When two people engage in learning about each other, the emotional buildup is like a volcano ready to erupt. This eruption is a powerful emotional connection that surpasses physical satisfaction. The more both parties get to know each other, the more explosive this eruption becomes.
In the end, the secret to a successful relationship lies in knowing and understanding each other. The more two people learn about each other, the deeper their connection becomes. This connection goes beyond physical attraction and leads to an emotional eruption that is fulfilling and satisfying. The game of attraction is not just about sex; it's about sharing emotions and building a deep connection.
In the complex world of dating, relationships, and attraction, knowing what game you're playing, and the rules governing it, is crucial. For men, it's about protecting feelings and ego, and for women, it's about passing the 'tests' men set up.
When a man desires a relationship, he puts women through a series of tests. The ultimate goal is not simply to sleep with a woman, but to safeguard his emotions. Men have witnessed or experienced the pain of unreciprocated love or heartbreak, and the subconscious tests they put women through are designed to protect their feelings.
Women need to understand this testing process and learn how to pass these 'tests'. Men desire their chosen partner to succeed; it's not about setting them up for failure. A woman's ability to pass these tests helps men feel secure in their emotional investment.
When women repeatedly fail these tests, some men may conclude that there are no "good women" - a harsh perception that's not reflective of reality but a product of personal experience. It's crucial to recognize this dynamic and navigate it with understanding and empathy.
The key to passing these tests is creating an emotional response and grabbing hold of the trigger without letting go. In all cases, the goal is a long-term, valuable relationship. Every man wants a partner whose value appreciates and who can be a lifelong companion.
Alpha males are constantly trying to prove their worth, either through combat or women. The woman who challenges them both mentally and physically is a win-win. But if she starts to challenge him the way other men do, arguments can ensue. He needs to feel like the man of his household, or he'll seek another where he can fulfill that role.
In this intricate dance of relationships, protecting feelings is paramount. For a woman to succeed in the game, she must listen to her man, understand his intentions, and learn to hold the trigger. This will prevent a cycle of hurt and confusion, leading to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.