The art of selling dreams is not a new concept, I'm just explaining it.
How do I get such a stronghold on the emotional trigger?
This is where a lot of women have problems, you listen too much.
When we meet you tell me all about you.
I know how many brothers, sisters, nieces, and nephews you have. Depending on how deep I let you go I may find out about how you were disciplined as a kid. I learn all about your parents. You teach me where they are from, there’s as well as your education level. Expressing your views on various subjects I begin to learn how your mind works. You teach me all this within the early moments of our chance meeting.
What am I to do with all this information?
If you prefer to listen check out my thoughts here.
Initially, I keep the information in order to determine the likelihood of a successful relationship.
However, if you never stop to find out about me, you guessed it, I have to punish you for it.
The information you gave me now become bullets in the gun with my finger on the trigger.
Now it's my turn to add to the conversation, but I don’t add any substance.
The emotional trigger is something I hold dear to my heart.
I do not want to give you any ammunition at all costs unless I have deemed you worthy.
Which basically means you won’t use my weakness against me or I am made to feel safe. I avoid discussing me personally. We will discuss only surface stuff as it relates to me but core stuff as it relates to you unless you insist.
If you insist then I will take your number and we will discuss me further, later. This is what you want. You and I continuing to get to know each other. The operative word being “each”.
Now that I have been educated on your values and how they were derived, I have loaded the gun. I begin to utilize these values in the picture I paint of our future.
I understand that you don’t understand what I mean, so let me describe it.
You have a close family.
Your family has tons of fun together.
You tell me about your dreams of owning your own business.
I just listen, when it becomes my turn to talk I fast forward our life maybe five, ten or fifteen years to capture the emotions and bring them back to the present with me.
Utilizing the rhythm of the music or the nostalgic weather outside with the wind generating the point of reference for the future and the present.
I can picture us coming back to this same bar fifteen years from now.
Do you think this bar will be here fifteen years from now when we are celebrating our thirteenth anniversary?
Your favorite drink will still be the classic rum mint mojito.
Mango Key Lime Margarita is your favorite drink but Mojitos are your choice for the night.
Side Note to self: Have both Classic Rum Mint Mojitos and Mango Key Lime Margaritas on deck if you don’t get her home tonight. Remember to only bring it up no more than once more.
I continue the story by saying, “my bad” Mango Key Lime Margarita. I stop, look you dead in the eyes and say “I will never forget that again”.
Fifteen years from now the night will be perfect just like this one.
The only difference will be the people, which we don’t care about because the only two people that matter are you and I.
We will enjoy our outing because we come back every year, regardless of where we live in the world.
We will have to leave our family for a day or two to escape the madness and remember this is where it all started, on July 2nd, 2014. That would be cool huh?
It might not happen exactly like that, it's based on the adaptation to the conversation but the end result is the same.
In the picture, I painted we date for two years then get married, have a family together, which we leave behind each year where ever “we” are living to come back to the place "we" met.
If I can get her to visualize this happening, then once she wakes up she will have brought back fifteen years’ worth of emotion, although we just met.
I recognize her visualizing because she either sits there listening or adds to the dream.
It’s ok for us to share emotions (have sex) tonight because we are already sharing emotions in the future.
If you don’t stop me then, game over.
You never took the time to get to know me so in the morning you are punished and left with fifteen years of emotional baggage over one night.
Once this is implanted you can no longer tell when the inception actually was.
We met last night however you feel as though you have known me for years.
This technique can be done forwards or backward making it difficult to figure out when I was placed in your life.
If your past is most important to you then I will place myself back there and present myself as the guy you overlooked.
In this case, the future is more important because you told me about your dreams of the future, like owning your own business. Either way, I AM in control and can sell you anything I want.
This is messed up but it’s your punishment for not taking the time to get to know me.
If you took the time to get to know me then either you would have realized that the dream I was selling was empty or I would have decided that this dream, that we both saw, is something I desperately want to make happen for you.
This is how you feel so deeply in love so fast.
This placement of myself is how I will always have a place in your heart and you don’t know why.
The better the ammunition you give the deeper the bullets penetrate.
If you get to know me I risk both of us getting killed so therefore I play the game fair.
I really do want us both to win. All players really want both parties to win.
Time or timing is how you recognize the difference. It’s my job to convince you to leave the venue.
Men play chess not checkers. I AM a logistical genius. Unbeknownst to you I have mapped out the area and determined the most romantic locations or areas nearby. If it’s within walking distance perfect. If I get you to my home good, but not optimal.
Based on my story you have been madly in love with me for fifteen years and you can’t understand why I up and left you.
When I talk I AM speaking to your subconscious.
Imagine that story is the last thing you hear before you go to sleep. When you go to sleep all the blanks you want to be filled, get filled in with whatever you can imagine.
You cannot think like a man; you have to think like a woman. Protect your emotions like you would protect your offspring, with tenacity. Make sure I begin to deliver on my promise to fulfill your dreams before you believe them. The Art of Selling Dreams is mixing the lines between the show and tell. Dreams can quickly become nightmares.