Dinner smash? What do I mean? Dinner's meaning is obvious. Smash is slang for sharing emotions, intercourse, sex, and insert explicative.
Imagine several years ago, let's say seven, you met a handsome gent. You lost connection. There was never a real connection, to begin with, so it's not like you were Ghosted. When the two of you randomly linked back up he explained that somehow he had lost your number, but found it now (insert confused emoji). You chat for a bit then he suggests that the two of you should have dinner. After some petty verbal discourse, a challenge gets made to which he insists that he himself could be considered somewhat of a Chef. He desperately wants to prove it to you. The setting for this dinner competition is at his place. You agreed. You show up for dinner and he has in fact cooked a stupendous meal for the two of you.
What should happen next?
Should you leave after grading his dinner?
Should you stay maybe watch Netflix?
Should you suggest that the two of you go out for dessert?
What did you decide to do?
You decided to pay him for his meal and the effort he put in. You didn't decide to pay him with attention. You didn't decide to pay him with physical cash?
You decided that this meal and the effort that was put in was worth your body. Yes, you shared emotions with him. In other words, the two of you had sex.
Did you get to at least stay the night? Nope.
Here's my point. Over and over again I explain that relationships have a cash value.
Instead of searching through my hundreds of posts, I'm going to detail what I mean here.
How much do you think the meal was worth, in terms of actual cash? Let's say he spent a thousand dollars on the 1973 Chateau Montelena Chardonnay, Wagyu beef meatball stuffed with foie gras and truffle cheese and topped with White Truffle Marinara Sauce, and Homemade Tagliolini Pasta.
Even though that sounds absolutely delectable it doesn't match you. No, I'm not talking about the taste of you. It doesn't match the value of you.
The absolutely most important point is how much do you value yourself?
You gave him your body for the cost of dinner and the effort that was put in. He's left satisfied in every sense and you're left alone, which is unsatisfying. I don't care how good the intercourse was. I don't care how much the meal cost. I don't care how much effort he put in. You should not have come at such an inexpensive cost.
Please increase your self-esteem! Expand your bucket!
Have you ever been in a scenario similar to this one? How did you feel?
Women and Swag
First of all note, the swag is not gender-specific. Women, you must realize that you are in control. Contrary to popular belief you hold the power. 98% of marriages start with the man asking the woman. The mom takes care of 94% of the kids. So how can we as men dictate to you? This is cleverly disguised because without our all-important sperm you cannot reproduce. There is something in your body, genetic makeup, which tells you to do whatever it takes to make this happen. So here is where your major problem lies. I like to think of it in terms of Lions. I know you're saying I’m calling you an animal, yes I am, we all are. The Lion King hangs out all day making decisions and fighting when he’s challenged. This is sort of like men. The women go and get the food and make it edible for their offspring. Now, how important is the Lion King? Well, he’s the ideal candidate to create offspring, he’s fast, smart, strong, and he survived being a child in the wild. This creates his swag so all the Lionesses want to be with him. So what am I saying? I’m saying that women only care for their offspring and will do what’s necessary for them. The only problem is that the Lion King gets to impregnate all the Lionesses. Translating this forward, we have a pride of women wanting to sleep with the same man. When this happens you give up control and thus lose your true identity. As women, thinking in this manner, you want the leader of the pack. This is how the player or dog gets created. In a man’s nature, this is not naturally the case. What generally happens is as kids we do not realize our swagger or swag. In most cases a boy cub will find a girl cub that he likes, then once he realizes that he is not the Lion King and she falls for another, his quest changes. Now he does what he has to do to become the Lion King but once he becomes the Lion King now all the girls want him, so he has all the girls. Now the Lion King in today’s society would be the guy in the club, office, a playground that’s swag is on “a thousand” at that moment. See in the lion’s society that practice of one male impregnating all the females is accepted however in our modern-day society it’s not. So how do you get the Lion King to only want you? Your swag is the key.
Now back to the hierarchy women's shoes must be flawless. Now the key to how you dress is based, just like for the males, on your audience. No matter what shoes you have on they must be presentable. Let me state again that you have the power, so honestly, your outfit depends on who you want to attract, like the feathers of a peacock. Now if you have on jeans and sneakers you can almost bet your bottom dollar that a guy with jeans and sneakers on is going to make a move if any move is made at all. See for you women dressing has no rules except that it has to look good on you. Remember swag is how you are perceived by others. Now if you are a big girl or a girl with fat feet know that open toes is not the way for you. The type of shoes, being the base, is the beginning of your swag. Appealing is what you want to be at all times, the same with men. I mean the thing that you can get away with a woman is ridiculous, like wearing hills with sweat pants. Imagine a guy putting on a fresh pair of slides (dress shoes) with a pair of sweats; you would have to believe he’s in a rush or even a bum no matter what the name brand or how fresh the shoes look. The hierarchy is how your swag gets determined. Confidence is the key to swag; you have to know you are the schit. The game, men trying to impress women, and vice versa is what we do every day. Some have become experts at this and others need assistance, but everyone is in the game. A woman with confidence is exhilarating and thus piques our interest. When you step into a room and you walk it's like you are floating and all men love that. When you feel that you are above the room men will too. With that said you cannot hide behind a mask and think that we don’t know what you’re doing.
Head appeal is second on the hierarchy. If you wear makeup and it doesn’t look natural or the setting does not call for it, you appear to have low self-esteem. When you have low self-esteem we can smell it. When you have low self-esteem it's like a shark to blood in the water, easy prey. Your face is more important than your hair. Hairstyles should be designed to complement your face and outfit, but mainly your face. Your facial features can be off-kilter, meaning you’re ugly, but if you’re confident in yourself and want to be yourself then, men will smell and compete for that. This confidence is how you must really feel deep down inside. Men smell it from the heart, so if confidence isn’t running through your veins and is only on the surface once that is realized you will be left alone and on to the next scent. Women call men dogs and don’t really understand the psyche behind it. Sex is a weapon and you should use it to ward off unwanted intruders. Why is sex a weapon? We as men utilize all our senses when attacking our prey, and you are the prey. See sex is how we directly connect to you. When this connection happens it will become apparent that you have or lack confidence. How do you overcome this? As a woman, you naturally want to mate with a suitable King to increase the chances of your offspring surviving, but the timing has to be right. We men also need to have the same confidence that I speak of. If you have intercourse with a male too soon, although you have confidence, it will have an adverse effect on his confidence and his subconscious mind will tell him that you lack in that department, thus on to the next scent. This is how strong women end up with the guy out the door. Men and women need each other there is no such thing as independence only strong. See because you are confident you don’t need to sleep with the male at a time convenient to him it has to be convenient to the both of you. The guy is always ready but you shouldn’t be. You wait until he has committed to you. This may not be through a relationship but after getting all the things you want. How do you get the things you want?
A shirt can send all the right signals it can say I’m open for business or I’m a business owner. Your shirt or what’s covering your heart tells a man when you are ready. Hence the reasons why men stare in that region because he’s trying to figure out if it is him you are ready for. The shirt or what’s covering your heart is the most important level because it’s the gateway down south. Your swag can be boosted or downgraded based on how you cover your heart. The same rules apply for both women and men. If your shirt is too big, you lack confidence, on to the next scent. Now if the shirt is too small that brings about a plethora of mental thoughts. If you are a big girl or a girl with the “muffin top” small shirts are disgusting, period. Nobody finds that attractive but what men do find is that you are blood in the water, easy prey. These are the same facts for shirts with your entire breast out. What’s under the shirt or however you cover your heart is what we are trying to get to. We want to know your confidence, showing us any portion of your heart makes us think we have a cheat code or shortcut to finding out. In a one on one situation never show anything unless you are prepared for the worst, a confidence thirsty wolf. That’s the worst situation for any female to be in. If you do not understand what I’m saying its rape, this is not your fault, he is confidence thirsty and will do anything to get it, so know your audience. Now as a woman again fashion just has to look good on you, because there are any numbers of things you can put together to make an outfit. Now you have sent a message with what is covering your heart, next comes the confirmation.
Pants will confirm whether or not you are confident and ready in appearance. Now pants are what really make the muffin. Just like when making actual muffins the pan, not the dough is what determines the top. With that said if you are a big girl wearing pants that are too small, it’s disgusting. Now pants can make or break an outfit or your perceived confidence. Ok again with the big girls, just as I was talking to the fat dudes in an earlier post, you cannot wear pants that are too small. Your belly will get squeezed out of the top and thus forming the muffin. Buy pants that fit! Skinny jeans are for skinny people, if you wear skinny jeans and you are a big girl you absolutely cannot wear a skinny top. Now, what you can do with skinny jeans as a big girl? You can wear a fitting but not snug shirt with a pair of boots. Now if you are a big girl and you wear skinny jeans with sneakers, this is a no-no. Shoes are the first thing we see so we will see your ankles spewing out the bottom of your jeans like a baker pushing buttercream. From there it does not matter how the rest of the outfit looks. Boots it does not matter what boot but something to cover the ankles and hide but flatter your top. Now we are down south, the entranceway to discovering your confidence. Again the timing has to be right but you can tease a man with the right pair of pants or whatever covers the entranceway. Now getting in the entranceway should not be free! He should have spent time and affection. More important than affection is time. See the longer he is fighting to outwit you then the more his mind is saying she is confident. What this battle does is allows you both to gain confidence in each other. See you begin to trust him, so his thoughts and ideas and words help you to gain the confidence you need. He doesn’t realize this is happening but at the same time, his subconscious mind is saying this is exactly what I need. Through this time you give him the confidence that there is no other scent better than yours and he has been on your scent so long he doesn’t remember what other scents are. The third bonus in paying with time is that he will forget how to hunt anything other than your scent. But it is crucial for you to remember he is a wild animal who was once the Lion King, these hunting skills are only masked in mutual benefits. Once the benefits lean-to one side or the other or you are not doing the same things that kept him on the hunt he will then start to remember the wild. A classic example of this is Buck a character in the book “Call of the Wild” who was a house dog who heard the calling of other dogs and once in the wild he remembered how to survive and compete. If the timing is right he will take care of the accessories.
The accessories are the last level of swag, which is the bonus level because for most women it isn’t necessary or most men don’t care, but when it's right it's right. For example, wearing a strapless dress shows off your neck and shoulders if you wear long chandelier-like earrings this will accentuate your neckline leading to your shoulders. This coupled with a necklace that rests slightly below your neck will send men crazy. But either way, you have control.