Imagine you're at the Zoo watching in aww. The Zookeeper walks slowly through the high grass of which the Lion, King of Beasts, dwells. He reaches in his bag to grab what appears to be a super-juicy uncooked steak, to which he hands off to the King of Beasts. He carefully walks away to live another day. The Zookeeper and the King of Beasts dwell together in harmony so long as the Zookeeper keeps the King of Beasts with a Queen of Beasts and plenty of delicious food to eat. The King and Queen of Beasts remain docile and jovial. 

What would happen should that Zookeeper begin to take for granted that he's dealing with a docile and jovial King and Queen of Beasts?

What would happen if the Zookeeper should elect, on any given day, not to appreciate the King and Queen of Beasts?

What would happen if the Zookeeper consciously decides not to feed the Royal Couple super-juicy uncooked steaks.

I'll tell you what happens. The King and Queen of Beasts will remember that they are Beasts and then attack as Beasts do.

When you're in a relationship, it's important to understand that your wife, husband, or your partner are Kings and Queens, human animals, and should be treated as such. Just because they have been docile and jovial doesn't mean they completely forgot who they are. It would be best if you never mistook kindness for weakness. It would help if you never mistook tamed, gentle, subdued Beasts for being soft and weak. Even Buck responded to the Call of the Wild.

Far too often, you may have gotten used to their demeanor. Have you ever forgotten that you were dealing with a King or Queen? What was the result?

I want to be a Gazelle, is that ok? Currently, I'm a Lion but I want to be a Gazelle.

Why?

Lions eat Gazelles, right?

If that was your thought pattern then you're absolutely right, Lions do eat Gazelles. If the Lion doesn't catch the Gazelle the Lion dies, right? I'm aware there are other animals that Lions eat but let's say for the sake of the argument they only eat Gazelles. The Lion sleeps all day basically wakes up to eat and make babies. Occasionally there is drama from other Prides. The Gazelle has to always be ready for when the Lion may strike.

See when you're a Lion the metaphor is that you're hungry so you're hunting. In this case, I want to be the best. I believe that I am the best at understanding relationships and how they actually work. However, there are a ton of so-called Guru's getting the attention. They are at the top of their game and I want their spot. That makes me a Lion and since I'm hunting their metaphorical spot amongst the "Relationship Guru" ranks, they are the Gazelle.

Magic became a Gazelle when Jordan hit the league. Jordan became a Gazelle when Kobe (R.I.P.) hit the league. Kobe became the Gazelle when Lebron hit the league.

I want to be amongst the greats. I want the information that I'm sharing to be in History books. Maybe even a class taught in High-School or College. Einstein is a Gazelle, Freud is a Gazelle.

Once I become the Gazelle I will have to always be on my game so that I'm not eaten and I know that day will come and I'm looking forward to it.

Are you the Gazelle or are you still hungry like a Lion?