Let's talk about Social Media for a second. I open up Instagram. I type in "Relationships". The first thing I see is the account leaders, I guess. I click on the first account. Guess what I see as their latest post? I'm paraphrasing but it says something to the effect of don't beg for a friendship or relationship; you should receive the same effort as you give or let them go.

I thought wooooooooow that was so insightful. I'm not hating on the account but c'mon man people need cures, not treatment.

I ask you what do you gain from hearing this?

It's a rhetorical question because I know the answer, nothing.

Ok, let me ask you this, If you see a rose grow from concrete did the rose put in more or less effort than a rose that grows out of the ground in a garden?

I don't know because I'm not a rose.

So you judge the environment in which the rose grew and make assumptions about how difficult it was for the rose. I mean it had to be difficult for a rose to grow through concrete. Right? Maybe.

Everyone sees this broken concrete and through it blossomed a pretty rose. Everyone steps over the rose moves around the rose to admire the rose's beauty all day. At night the rose is a sight to see. The way the street lights bounce off the concrete to shine on the rose tells you although the rose's life has been rough you can't stop its shine.

But what about the beetles, mites, caterpillars, and grasshoppers in the garden? Not to mention the predators that eat them while they are eating. Oh, insecticides showering the rose to hopefully get rid of all of that.

Now, who has to put in more effort to grow?

This is why content like this doesn't serve to help you with your #relationshipgoals. You have to understand why you made the judgment in the first place. You have to understand you, then it will be easier to judge how much effort was put in because it will be based on how much you require.

Out of curiosity which rose are you?