Gentlemen of the larger persuasion, did you know you have a secret weapon in the dating field? It’s time to uncover this unexpected advantage: The power of lowered expectations.
When a big guy confidently strides up to a woman, she often doesn't know what to expect. Will he be as soft-hearted as his soft exterior, or could he be the proverbial tough guy? Will his life be as meticulously curated as his appearance, or a complete chaos? When expectations are at zero, it's like an open canvas. You can paint whatever picture you want.
In my own dating history, women often told me, "you're nothing like I thought you were." That's the magic of being unexpected – they don’t know whether to brace for a storm or a breeze.
When women meet slim men, they often make snap judgments based on his appearance. If he’s overly groomed, he might be labeled as high maintenance, even if he's just a man who takes pride in his appearance. If he's well-dressed but a bit rugged, he might be stereotyped as a player.
However, these initial assumptions can be easily swayed by smooth talk and the art of 'dream selling.' Men with a knack for sweet talk can bob and weave through these stereotypes like a Mayweather fight.
Here's where the plus-size guys come out on top. The automatic assumption for big men is generally along the lines of 'cute and cuddly,' triggering maternal instincts in women. Add a dose of confidence and some well-chosen words, and you've got the perfect recipe to catch them off guard.
It’s as though you've blindsided them, and they'll feel remorse for having underestimated you. All you need to do is hold onto this tension, like high-octane fuel. If she lets you release it, it's "game over". You might feel a bit lost too, caught up in a whirlwind of emotions, but remember – this disorientation can be a catalyst for magic.
Don't forget, gentlemen, be gloriously selfish with your happiness. When you're aglow with joy, others can glimpse their own happiness potential. If you can't see your success, it might be time to change your vantage point!
Darling, the universe of love is a delectable playground. Like any great game, it has rules. First, understand that every romance comes with a price tag of emotional richness. Second, know what you yearn for and, more importantly, believe that you deserve it.
You might stumble upon people selling this wisdom. Yet, here I am, gifting it to you on a silver platter. All I ask for is your undivided attention.
Ever heard of "The Alchemist"? Santiago, the shepherd boy, is given a task. Carry a spoonful of oil through a lavish hallway without spilling a drop. He does, but misses all the splendor around him.
The lesson? You, my dear, are the precious oil. Balance taking care of yourself while savoring the world's beauty. Always prioritize your needs but allow it to be as natural as your charisma.
So, you've mastered the art of 'hi', and you're in the heart of a conversation. Well done, champ! Now, pay attention. As a man, you should lead the conversation. It's not about chauvinism; it's about understanding your worth.
Doubting your worth? It's time for an ego-boost. Look into a mirror, lock eyes with your reflection, and repeat, "I AM the man." Let this mantra seep into your subconscious and reinforce your self-worth.
Ladies, here's something for you. Men relish the feeling of 'owning'. It gives them comfort in leading. So, let him hold the door, pay for your meal, and make you feel special. But remember, don't confuse his potential with reality. Understand your worth and know what you desire.
Feeling envious of others finding their treasure while you stand empty-handed? It's time to change that. If you're thirsty, find the water. Show the universe your worth with your actions.
Don't forget to focus on what brings you joy (remember the spoon and oil?) but also appreciate the beauty around you.