Gentlemen of the larger persuasion, did you know you have a secret weapon in the dating field? It’s time to uncover this unexpected advantage: The power of lowered expectations.
When a big guy confidently strides up to a woman, she often doesn't know what to expect. Will he be as soft-hearted as his soft exterior, or could he be the proverbial tough guy? Will his life be as meticulously curated as his appearance, or a complete chaos? When expectations are at zero, it's like an open canvas. You can paint whatever picture you want.
In my own dating history, women often told me, "you're nothing like I thought you were." That's the magic of being unexpected – they don’t know whether to brace for a storm or a breeze.
When women meet slim men, they often make snap judgments based on his appearance. If he’s overly groomed, he might be labeled as high maintenance, even if he's just a man who takes pride in his appearance. If he's well-dressed but a bit rugged, he might be stereotyped as a player.
However, these initial assumptions can be easily swayed by smooth talk and the art of 'dream selling.' Men with a knack for sweet talk can bob and weave through these stereotypes like a Mayweather fight.
Here's where the plus-size guys come out on top. The automatic assumption for big men is generally along the lines of 'cute and cuddly,' triggering maternal instincts in women. Add a dose of confidence and some well-chosen words, and you've got the perfect recipe to catch them off guard.
It’s as though you've blindsided them, and they'll feel remorse for having underestimated you. All you need to do is hold onto this tension, like high-octane fuel. If she lets you release it, it's "game over". You might feel a bit lost too, caught up in a whirlwind of emotions, but remember – this disorientation can be a catalyst for magic.
Don't forget, gentlemen, be gloriously selfish with your happiness. When you're aglow with joy, others can glimpse their own happiness potential. If you can't see your success, it might be time to change your vantage point!