Winning Hearts in the Love Court: The Big Fella Advantage

A confident big man charming a woman

Opening Serve: The Media Stereotypes

Pop on the television or flick through a magazine, and you'll notice a pattern. Big men are often painted as lazy, solitary beings. If we're seen with a stunning woman, what's the verdict? Must be rich, they say. It's an unsettling trend that some label as 'fatphobia'. But here's where they've got it all wrong - we have an advantage.

First Set: Breaking Stereotypes

Imagine you're out and spot a radiant woman. You stride over and hit her with a cheery "Hi!" Your confident tone throws her. It's not what she was expecting. Forget the throng of 'Sexy Flexis' around. None had the courage to approach her. But you did.

Second Set: Shaking Up Her Expectations

Her internal relationship barometer goes haywire. Like a compass thrown off by a powerful magnet, she's disoriented because you were not part of her script. All the 'Sexy Flexis' in the room, and you, the unexpected hero, made the first move. Just by saying "Hi," you've taken the lead.

Third Set: The Alpha Dawg Advantage

Consider yourself the Alpha Dawg, the front runner. Fashion and how it aids your advantage is a topic for another day. But, let's look at the usual suspects in any social scenario. First, there's the 'Yard Dog'. He knows the ropes, is familiar with everyone, and generally plays the dominant alpha. Then, there's the 'Guerilla Pimp'. His unconventional style wakes everyone up but also puts the 'Yard Dog' on high alert.

Final Set: Smooth Operator

So, where do you fit in? You are the 'Smooth Operator'. Your size, regardless of how you're dressed, only intrigues the women and not seen as a threat by the 'Yard Dogs'. You're the quiet storm of confidence. By the time the 'Yard Dogs' take notice, you're already leading the dance with the belle of the ball. And that, my friend, is the advantage of the 'Big Fella'.

Game, Set, Match: Your Move, Big Fella

Can you relate to this? Share your experiences! I can tell you; when other men see me with my wife, I know they're left scratching their heads in bewilderment.

Key Points

  1. Breaking Stereotypes: Take charge and challenge society's preconceived notions.
  2. Unexpected Move: Surprise her with your confident approach.
  3. The Alpha Dawg Advantage: Stand out by being the unexpected choice in the room.
  4. Smooth Operator: Play it cool and quietly make your move.

Finding Myself in the YouTube Rabbit Hole: The Unexpected INFJ Discovery

A person enthusiastically watching Youtube videos

A Dive into the Confidence Abyss

So there I was, struggling with sharing my wisdom on confidence, my hands poised over the keyboard, my mind buzzing like a hive. Yet, the age-old question of credibility was my speed bump - was I genuinely in a position to preach about confidence?

My Youtube Odyssey

Pivoting from the mental gridlock, I decided to turn to our trusty digital sensei, Youtube. I was diving into the Youtube loop, my eyes feasting on clip after clip, my brain synthesizing data faster than a supercomputer. The algorithm sure knew its game.

A New Dawn, A New Suggestion

My screen was aglow with sneakers and fashion videos when I awoke, and a term kept popping up - "personality types". My neurons fired, and I recalled taking a personality test at work. The result had implied that I was a rare breed, a species almost on the brink of extinction.

Retesting the Waters

Driven by curiosity and a tinge of skepticism, I decided to retake the test. No overthinking. No analyzing. Just gut reactions. With a drumroll playing in my head, I clicked on the results - I was still an INFJ, COVID humor included.

The Rare Jewel: INFJ

INFJ, a collection of four innocuous letters representing one of the rarest personality types globally. It felt like someone finally got me, beyond the mask, beyond the societal expectations, beyond the family ties. I felt seen, not just by Myers Briggs, but also by my fellow Youtubers.

Basking in INFJ Glory

And why not? With adjectives like altruistic, passionate, principled, insightful, creative, perfectionistic, and an aversion to the ordinary defining us, being an INFJ was like wearing a badge of honor. I wasn't just excited; I was turbo-charged.

Over to You

Have you tumbled down the Youtube rabbit hole? How does it feel to uncover layers of your personality that were hitherto unknown? Go on, take the test, and let me know if your personality type fits you!

Key Points

  1. Navigating the Youtube maze can lead to unexpected discoveries about oneself.
  2. Retaking personality tests without overthinking can validate previous results.
  3. Realizing you're an INFJ can be an empowering experience.
  4. Sharing this journey might encourage others to discover more about their personality types.

Ready, Set, Record: A Warrior's Leap into YouTube Stardom

Man preparing for YouTube recording

Aiming for YouTube Stardom

YouTube fame, I'm coming for you, right? Hang on, it's not that straightforward. I had my YouTube channel up and running, but it felt void. It echoed my words, but where was the soul, the fire, the essence of "me"?

A Brotherhood of Advice

In this conundrum, I did what any ambitious man wrapped in confusion would do: I dialed up my brothers. We spoke, and boy, did we speak. Each conversation felt like a marathon, not a sprint. The question on repeat was: How do I infuse my YouTube screen with my personality?

My middle brother, ever the straightforward one, said, "Stick to five minutes, max." The youngest, a pragmatist at heart, suggested a hook to intrigue viewers but emphasized brevity. Finally, my eldest brother (yeah, we're Irish twins) advised me to visualize my audience and connect directly to them. In essence: Be exciting, be concise, and please, stop rambling.

From Warrior to Storyteller

You see, we were raised by a warrior's code: no bragging rights for being a fighter unless you've weathered a few brawls. This motto shaped me into a real-life warrior, but how to weave those experiences into a captivating narrative was my challenge. My baby brother's advice? "Be you, but in less than 10 minutes." Short and sweet - got it.

No Snitching, Just Helping

My middle brother, ever the custodian of the code, warned against "snitching," or oversharing. Yet, he also proposed sharing tales that truly help others, following a "narrate first, elucidate later" strategy.

Emotionally Intelligent Storytelling

On the other hand, my eldest brother highlighted my ability to empathize. He advised me to leverage my emotional intelligence and confidence to make a real impact. "You've always been the protector of your loved ones with tenacity. So, do just that," he said.

YouTube, Here I Come!

So, here's the grand plan: I'm bringing all of that to my channel. I'll share my warrior stories, my learnings, my fervor, and my persona, all in under 10 minutes. YouTube, brace yourself, I'm coming for you!

Key Points:

  1. Aimed for YouTube fame but struggled with infusing my personality into videos.
  2. Sought advice from my brothers who emphasized brevity, engagement, and authenticity.
  3. Guided by my warrior code, I'm set to share stories that truly help people.
  4. I'll leverage my emotional intelligence and confidence to connect with my audience.
  5. Gearing up to launch my YouTube journey with authentic, engaging content in bite-sized videos.

Grasping Appreciation: A Deep Dive into Self-Worth & Value

Man reflecting on the concept of appreciation.

Grasping the Essence of Appreciation

Appreciation: a loaded word, isn't it? Do you truly comprehend its depth? More importantly, do you feel appreciated? Relationships, much like everything else, operate within a value system, a system we often fail to understand fully. Allow me to guide you through it.

A Worldly Perspective on Appreciation

Let's go on a little virtual journey, shall we? A quick search on the mighty internet, our all-knowing friend Google, yields the definition of appreciation as "the recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something." Merriam-Webster offers similar sentiments, highlighting admiration, approval, gratitude, and intriguingly, an "increase in value."

Appreciation: A Game of Value

That's right, appreciation translates to an increase in value. I delved deeper into the concept of value in my previous post, where I explored the adage, "Why buy the cow if the milk is free?" It essentially emphasized the human tendency to invest in things that yield benefits, and ignore those that don't.

Intrinsic vs Extrinsic Value

Now, here's where the plot thickens: the value concept is two-fold, comprised of intrinsic and extrinsic components. Intrinsic value, or self-worth, hinges on confidence. Your level of self-assuredness influences your perceived worth in any situation. Extrinsic value, on the other hand, is the worth society assigns to you.

The Penny Analogy: Finding Your Worth

Consider a penny: an unassuming coin, right? However, its intrinsic value lies in the copper it embodies. Yet, most of us overlook its potential, focusing on the nominal value instead. Similarly, we often undervalue our intrinsic worth and let society dictate our value.

Appreciation Begins Within

Here's a revelation: you can't truly appreciate anything if your self-worth fluctuates with societal opinions. You might idolize others based on their societal standing, thinking that their pedestal is the ultimate goal. But, my dear friend, true appreciation begins when you start valuing yourself, independent of the world's judgement.

Answering the Questions

So, should you be appreciated? Absolutely, especially if you've contributed value beyond the baseline, uplifting others and the world around you. Should you feel appreciated? Again, yes, if you acknowledge your growing self-confidence. Lastly, do you understand appreciation? I believe, after this enlightening exploration, the answer is a resounding "Yes!"

Key Points:

  1. Understanding the societal definition of appreciation.
  2. Exploring the concept of intrinsic and extrinsic value.
  3. Relating self-worth to the concept of appreciation.
  4. The importance of valuing oneself to truly grasp appreciation.
  5. Realizing that you deserve and should feel appreciated.

Caught in the Act: The Intrigue of Subconscious Paranoia

You know that moment, right? Strolling down a deserted street, just you, a guy and his girl. As you saunter closer, you notice the guy clutching her hand tighter or wrapping his arm around her waist. Yes, my friend, you've just caught a glimpse of Subconscious Paranoia in all its glory.

So, Why the PDA All of a Sudden?

The answer is quite simple and yet so complex: he's marking his territory, but it's not about her - it's all about you.

Let's break it down, shall we?

The Common Assumption

If a woman is walking beside a man, society instinctively paints them as a couple. So, what instigated that sudden show of affection? It's a little thing called a confidence deficit.

A Tug-of-War of Confidence

Here's a short play-by-play. You're minding your own business when Mr. Paranoid spots you and instinctively pulls her closer. His mind's spinning tales of you swooping in and stealing his girl, hence, the subconscious paranoia. Clearly, confidence is not his strong suit.

Ironically, he wouldn't do the same if a woman walked by. Intriguing, right?

The Inappropriate Outfit Dilemma

Have you ever experienced that nagging feeling when your girlfriend dons an outfit you deem "inappropriate," even though it fits just right? You're projecting your past gaze on every man that looks her way.

The Energy Shift

And what about her? Did she notice anything?

You bet she did!

The moment you grabbed her, you broke her focus. Suddenly, your energy felt weaker, and she could feel the shift. This ignited her curiosity, and her gaze followed yours to the perceived threat. Relationship game over.

Curbing Your Subconscious Paranoia

Here's some unsolicited advice: stop clutching at her like she's your lifeline! You either need to:

  1. Work on your confidence. Dig deep into your past, unearth the cause of your paranoia, and deal with it. Or,
  2. If her energy is overpowering, perhaps it's time to find someone whose energy aligns with yours.

Remember, the balance of a relationship depends on how you nurture it, not on how much you spend on it.

Key Points:

  1. Subconscious Paranoia is a display of lack of confidence.
  2. Sudden affectionate gestures toward a partner in the presence of another man signifies insecurity.
  3. Your partner can sense energy shifts and may question the relationship.
  4. The cure to subconscious paranoia lies in self-improvement and finding the right energy match.

Your Love, Your Rules: Unleash Your True Desires!

A beautiful woman left in the bed

Hey there, brave hearts! Ever wondered why your love life seems like a rollercoaster that only goes downhill? Let's untangle this mystery.

Taming the Rebel Heart

Fascinated by the wild side of love, aren't we all? You live this crazy, thrilling lifestyle because it sparks joy in your heart, just like that lightning bolt emoji you love to use. Yet, you find yourself drawn to someone totally opposite because, well, that's what they expect.

The world around you has expectations, huh? Your status in society comes with a manual for the 'right' partner. Does this sound familiar?

The Confidence Conundrum

It all boils down to one thing: Confidence. Yes, my friend, it's that simple and that complex. The partner you choose is a mirror of your confidence, and if you're too scared to embrace your true desires, that reflection gets blurry.

Ever had that thought? She must have been this wild and exciting for someone else. If she hadn't, you wouldn't be drawn to her. Simple logic, right?

Breaking the Chains

Here's where it gets interesting: You suppress your true feelings, choosing what you believe others want you to have. But hey, where's your happiness in this scenario?

Time to make a decision, folks. Love women who love women? Bring your partner home and introduce her as part of your family. It's your happiness on the line, after all.

Decisions, Decisions

What if you bring home her new BFF, and then you cheat on her or worse? Sounds like a twisted sitcom, doesn't it? But it's real life for some. True manhood is about making decisions, not wallowing in indecision.

The world is your oyster, love rebels. Go after what makes your heart sing! For more insights, leave a comment, keep reading, or simply just stay tuned. We're in this journey together. Remember, I'm here to assist you with your romantic quests. It's time to live by Your Love, Your Rules!


  1. Your Love, Your Rules: Don't let society dictate your romantic choices.
  2. Confidence is Key: Your choice of partner reflects your confidence.
  3. Be Decisive: Make choices that align with your happiness.

Cracking the Friend Zone: Unleash Your Confidence!

Couple breaking free from the friend zone, embracing new possibilities.

The Friend Zone Dilemma: Embrace Confidence and Take Charge

Okay, listen up! It's time to face the hard truth I told you years ago: men and women can't just be friends, at least not until after you're married. Wondering why you ended up in the friend zone? Well, I'll be blunt—it's because of you. Yep, I said it. YOU are the freaking problem. But fear not, my friend, because I'm here to guide you out of that abyss. Get ready for a reality check that will make you swear off the friend zone forever. Let's dive in!

The Attraction Factor: It's More Than Just Friendship

Let's set the record straight. You didn't just walk up to each other and say, "Hey, let's be friends." There was something that initially sparked your interest. You could argue it was school or work that brought you together, but that's a low self-esteem way of thinking, and it's time to toss that idea out the window. Release the contract you have with that notion. Sure, you may have crossed paths in class or at work, but the fact that you're hanging out beyond those obligations should clue you in, genius.

Boost Your Confidence: From Faking It to Making It

Now, let's talk about confidence. You had the confidence to engage in those after-hours activities. No, not necessarily sex (keep up, will you?). I've got a mantra for you: "You faked it until you made it, now what?" You faked having SWAG, and guess what? Unless you're truly oblivious, you've got it! The time has come to unleash your inner charisma and start acting on it. And now, let's get to the juicy stuff.

Understanding the Energy Game: Winning Hearts and Minds

Energy, my friend, is the secret ingredient. If you're a guy trying to win over that lucky lady who currently sees you as just a friend, let me set things straight—she's not your friend, bro. She's the object of your affection, the apple of your eye. So, what are you doing wrong? You're leaving her hanging. Picture this: your car and its gas tank. Your car represents her, and you fill her up with premium love energy. You take her on romantic outings and do everything that screams "romance." But here's the catch—it's not truly romantic unless there's genuine passion, genius. To fill her tank to the brim, you need to provide that super high-octane, sexual energy. If you fail to give her that, you make it easy for any random person off the street to swoop in and steal her heart by delivering that missing piece. You've done all the groundwork for me—the more confident gentleman. I just need to provide that sexual energy, and voilà, you're officially on the back burner, while I decide your fate. But here's the kicker—you're more confident than you realize.

No More Settling: Embrace Your Desires and Speak Up

Ah, the classic "I don't want to ruin the friendship" dilemma. Is something better than nothing? Hell no! Something is only better than nothing if that's all you truly want. But if you crave more, you've got to go out and get it. Here's a tip: stop being freaking timid and tell her how you feel. Timidity only arises when confidence is lacking. Take her saying she wants to be friends in one of two ways: 1. She's just as scared as you are and is letting you off the hook with the "friends" label. 2. You're not man enough in her eyes—at least not yet. You need to create that impulse buy, like those limited-time offers you see in commercials. Suppose she brings up being friends again; you cut ties without further explanation. She'll be left wondering what happened, and you simply tell her that you wanted more. No need to elaborate. Walk away with that level of confidence, and trust me, she'll feel a surge of attraction. Boom! She better make a decision, and fast. With your newfound confidence, girls like her will be magnetized to you from all directions.

Embrace Your Confidence and Let Him Chase

Ladies, here's the deal. You just need to embrace your confidence and let him come to you. But if you want to release some of that tension, put him in situations that force him to make a decision. Picture this: you're face-to-face for whatever reason, and you grab him, waiting for that long-awaited kiss. If he doesn't seize the moment, he lacks the confidence to be with you. And guess what? He'll never be able to fill your bucket, so it's on to the next one. Women have it easy in this game—all you need is confidence. We'll take care of the rest. And if we're not stepping up, then it's time to reevaluate what you're attracting. It all starts with your thoughts. Make a list of all the things you want in a man, and I mean every single thing. If he can't check off every item, well, you know what's going to happen. Let your confidence guide your choices, and watch as you attract the partner you truly desire.

The Moral of the Story: Confidence is Everything

Here's the bottom line: confidence is key. There's no such thing as opposite-sex besties—at least not in the way you think. Someone is not keeping it real. But fear not, I'm here for you. Leave a comment below to share your thoughts. Oh, and if you want a shortcut to understanding buckets and nozzles (you'll get it, trust me), check out this, that, and the other thing. Suppressing your feelings will only lead to explosions at the wrong time, expressing the wrong ideas, and being misunderstood.

If you need help with relationships, I'm here to assist. Leave a comment, keep reading, and stay tuned.

And always remember, be freaking selfish—through your happiness, others can find inspiration within themselves.

Key Points:

  1. Recognize that attraction goes beyond just friendship.
  2. Build and unleash your confidence to make a move.
  3. Understand the role of energy in creating a romantic connection.
  4. Communicate your true feelings and desires without hesitation.
  5. Embrace your confidence and let it magnetize potential partners.
  6. For women, have confidence and create situations that prompt action.
  7. Assess your attraction based on your desired qualities in a partner.
  8. Confidence is the key to unlocking romantic possibilities.
  9. There's no such thing as true opposite-sex besties.
  10. Let your happiness inspire others to find their own self-confidence.

Selling Love: Unleashing Your Inner Relationship Salesman

A confident man and woman engaging in a negotiation, symbolizing the salesmanship in dating.

The Intriguing Intersection of Love and Sales: Meeting at the Dealership

Let's take a spin into the world of car sales – an unexpected yet potent metaphor for the dating game. You pull up to the dealership, your eyes scanning the shiny parade of potential new rides. Here, the salesman doesn't need to sell you a car. You're already in the market. His task? Simply to match your desires with an option at a price the dealership approves. Now, let's cruise this concept into the dating realm...

Striking the Perfect Deal: Selling Attention for Affection

If someone finds your exterior appealing, they're likely to approach you. It's the law of attraction. Now, all you need to do is to strike a balance between what they want and what you can offer. Take, for instance, the age-old trade-off in dating: a man gives a woman attention; in return, she offers intimacy. But there's a catch – more often than not, the exchange ends there. It's a hasty transaction, skipping the potential for depth.

But consider this: what if he approached her offering time and attention? This time, she's winning. There had to be a reason he approached in the first place. Through a series of chats, he reveals his true desire: a relationship. As this dance continues, his emotional investment grows. When he's truly hooked, that's when she can sell him a relationship on her terms. Sound familiar? It mirrors the protracted process of buying a car.

Unmasking the Alpha Male: The Power of Confidence and Attention to Detail

Society often equates physical fitness with 'Alpha' status. But what if one doesn't fit the societal mould of a chiseled Greek god? Enter the world of the charismatic, confident, 'business developer' types. These are the ones who, despite not being gym buffs, exude confidence and an exceptional eye for detail. They've nailed the packaging, understand the walk, and have mastered the talk.

This breed of 'business developers' have a unique challenge. They must seek out clients (potential partners) and prove their worth. In social situations, they face numerous tests to their 'Alpha' status. And believe me, being an Alpha is all about readiness and resilience, something I'll delve deeper into in my upcoming GentleMANliness series.

The Intriguing Dance of Sales and Seduction: Why Business Developers Shine

The 'business developer' approach to dating might seem more demanding than the casual 'car salesman' method. However, business developers suggest better ways to invest your 'mental cash', such as time, on things that appreciate over time, rather than instant gratification that often depreciates.

Let's be clear, this post isn't to disregard the fit and fabulous. Instead, it's a rallying cry for those who may not fit the conventional attractiveness mould to understand their unique value in the relationship market. It's time to ponder: Who truly reaps more rewards, whether in mental or physical 'cash'?

Stay tuned, as we dive deeper into the nuances of GentleMANliness.

As always, remember to be unabashedly selfish and radiate your happiness. It's infectious. After all, "If you can't see your success, change your vantage point."

Key Points

  1. The dating game is comparable to a sales scenario, with each party offering something the other wants.
  2. Confidence, detail-oriented, and charisma are attractive attributes that can compete with physical fitness.
  3. Mental 'cash' like time, attention, and emotional investment often yield greater returns in relationships.

Level Up Your Game: Finding Your Smile in the Art of Modern Chivalry

A confident man spreading joy and positivity

Becoming the Smile Generator

So, you've graduated from the basics of Modern Chivalry Level 1, and you're already bringing a new energy to every room you walk into. People are drawn to you, women can't resist your charm, and men want to be you. But the game's not over. Let's dive into the nuances of Modern Chivalry Level 2.

Trust in Your Momentum

Level 2 is all about understanding confidence. It's not a magic potion you chug down, it's a muscle you've been training. You've begun to trust yourself, and the momentum is building. That momentum is an infectious positivity, an energy that you're spreading with every laugh and smile.

Making a Game of Smiles

How about we play a game? It's called the 'Smile Game'. Set a daily goal for the smiles you're aiming to inspire. On Day 1, you aim for one smile. On Day 2, it's two smiles. Keep it rolling, and if you ever miss a day, no worries, just add those smiles to the next day's target. And here's the trick - the first smile of the day is always your own.

Mastering the Beast

The ultimate goal of Level 2 is controlling the beast within - your emotions. Whether it's food, alcohol, sex, money, or video games, if you let these desires control you, they turn into beasts. But if you control them, they can serve you. Power comes from restoring balance where there was chaos.

Modern Chivalry Level 2 Rules

  1. Stand Tall, Stand Confident: You've already worked on this. Keep building that momentum.
  2. Find Your Smile Trigger: Understand what brings a smile to your face. Hold on to that. Use it when times get tough.
  3. Track the Happiness around You: Notice when people smile. Use this power wisely - for creating happiness, not spreading negativity.
  4. Go the Extra Mile: Develop the habit of doing more for others. It may seem selfless, but the joy you spread will return to you tenfold.

Key Points:

  • Trust in your growing confidence.
  • Play the 'Smile Game'.
  • Learn to control your emotions.
  • Use your power to spread positivity.

The Seductive Power of the Right Wardrobe: Unveiling Your Inner Alpha

An Alpha Male, dressed to impress, exuding confidence.


Whoever coined the phrase "the man makes the clothes, the clothes don't make the man," clearly didn't understand the potent psychological impact your sartorial choices can have. Yes, a confident man can make any ensemble look good, but let's not underestimate the tantalizing power of the right wardrobe.

Clothing Speaks Louder Than Words

Imagine this: you spot a man strolling down the street, hard hat on his head, construction boots on his feet. What's your immediate thought? That there must be a construction site nearby, right? Our perception is strongly influenced by the "uniforms" people don. So, if you're an accountant, skip the hard hat and boots. It's all about suiting up for your role.

Take a leaf out of Dave Chappelle's book – he hilariously illustrated this point in a standup routine about wearing a prostitute's uniform. The message? People will judge you based on your outfit, so be mindful of the audience and the impression you want to leave.

Outfit Yourself with Alpha

Remember when I said the most alpha character stands out from the crowd? Well, that extends to your company too. In the past, people often referred to a group as an "outfit," and for good reason. You'll be assessed based on the company you keep. Think about the attention your outfit – and your crew – attracts.

If you dress like a thug but you're not one, you might still attract those looking for a thug. Similarly, if you're a drug dealer dressed in the stereotypical attire, don't be surprised when the police give you extra attention. Meanwhile, Mr. Polo-shirt-and-khakis might just fly under their radar.

The Ladies' View

Ladies, this logic applies when selecting your next date. If you don't want to be with a 'bad boy', then don't choose the guy who's dressed in that uniform. Embrace venues with dress codes. You're already showing up in your pencil skirts, seductive blouses, and killer heels. Make sure he matches your effort and doesn't just turn up in saggy jeans and sneakers.

And please, don't be fooled by designer labels. They don't automatically make your outfit cooler. The power of dressing isn't just about brand names; it's about expressing your unique personality and inner swagger.


So remember, you are a product, and how you package yourself matters. Embrace the power of dressing and unleash your inner alpha. After all, self-love is the first step towards happiness. And when you're radiating joy, you'll inspire those around you to do the same.

"If you can't see your success, change your vantage pointe."

Key Points:

  1. Your clothing choices influence perceptions and can have psychological impacts.
  2. Dress to suit your role and the audience you want to impress.
  3. The company you keep - your 'outfit' - also influences how others perceive you.
  4. Women should consider a man's attire when selecting a date.
  5. The power of dressing is not about brand names but expressing your unique personality and inner swagger.

Do You Need a Mansion, or Just a Thimble of Love?

An intimate couple, smiling, showcasing the essence of premium energy.


It's not about the size of the ship, darling, it's the motion of your emotion. The intriguing sensation you feel from a gift - whether it's as petite as a thimble or as grand as a mansion - is what truly counts. That feeling? It's called "premium energy."

Does Size Really Matter?

Well, you must be curious: when does size matter, if at all? Let me pour you a glass of wisdom. Size matters, dear reader, only in two rather unfortunate scenarios: a damsel starved of emotional fulfillment or a gentleman nursing an ailing self-esteem.

Filling Her Bucket

You see, if her bucket is bone-dry, signifying a dire absence of premium energy, your sexual energy must plumb the depths. Indeed, you require a robust reservoir of sexual energy to make up for her premium energy deficit. In this case, yes, size does matter.

But wait, let's paint a different picture. Suppose you douse this lady's bucket with love until it brims, leaving only a smidge of room for sexual energy. Then, voilà, you don't need to boast a gargantuan capacity for sexual energy because she's already saturated with everything she needs. Now, any extra sexual energy you bring is simply the cherry on top.

Your Confidence, Not Your Size

Your preoccupation with size is simply a symptom of a confidence crisis. Let me tell you a little secret: if she's been around the block (and she's no virgin), her bucket might've been expanded before. But remember, as long as you can fill it, size becomes irrelevant.

Picture this, you pour your energy into her bucket, any residue from past lovers will either get vaporized or squeezed out. So, drop the anxiety, the fear - confidence is the real sex appeal here, my friend.

Conclusion: Size and Premium Energy

In conclusion, size only matters when there's a premium energy drought. So, focus on nurturing an abundant spring of premium energy instead of fretting about your size. After all, it's the feeling, the emotion, the connection that's the ultimate aphrodisiac.

Key Points:

  1. It's not about the size, but the premium energy your connection generates.
  2. Size matters only when she lacks premium energy or he lacks self-esteem.
  3. Filling her emotional bucket with love minimizes the need for vast sexual energy.
  4. Your confidence is more attractive than any physical size.
  5. The focus should be on cultivating premium energy, not fretting about size.

Become Her Desired Rarity: Mastering the Art of Scarcity in the Love Game



Hey there, love wizards! Ever wondered why that 'going out of business' sign seems so tantalizingly urgent? Why we rush to purchase items before they're gone forever? Time to grab your martini, lean back, and let's delve into how this principle can spice up your love life!

From Business to Romance: Applying Scarcity

The genius behind the 'going out of business' sign is creating urgency. Items disappearing tomorrow? Better snatch them up today. Now imagine applying this in the dating game. Picture yourself as a limited-edition commodity, a rare gem, an alpha male.

Personal anecdote? I once walked into a party in my favorite vintage leather jacket. It was so far from the usual party wear, but guess who had a crowd around him all night? This guy.

Style it Up: The 80/20 Rule

Let's talk style, gents. You know how you only wear about twenty percent of your clothes eighty percent of the time? That’s your personal style. Maintain this when going out. Your outfit is your unique banner. Fly it high!

Remember, blending in is for chameleons, not alpha males.

Alpha Allure: Confidence and Scarcity

Confidence is the cologne of the alpha male. When you approach her with an air of confidence, she'll see you as a rare commodity and won't resist marketing herself to you. Bingo, you're now in control!

Happiness: Your Ultimate Accessory

Your happiness is infectious, and people can't help but be drawn to it. So, flaunt it and enjoy the attention!

Key Points

  1. Use the 'Going out of Business' principle in your love life. Be the rare commodity she desires.
  2. Embrace the 80/20 rule to identify and enhance your personal style. Stand out, don't blend in.
  3. Confidence is crucial. It makes you seem rare and desirable.
  4. Radiate happiness. It’s your most attractive trait.

Remember, gents, you're the limited edition in the bustling love market. Now go out there and be fuching selfish with your happiness. As the love market's hottest rarity, you're about to be snatched up!

Embracing The Beast: Confidence, Love, and The Power of Suggestion

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The Journey from Beast to Beauty: The Power of Confidence

Life and love, oh, what a turbulent rollercoaster they weave! Picture the seemingly perfect man – muscular, charismatic, blessed with a charming smile. Yet, he's a beast on the inside, hidden behind a façade, just waiting for his beauty to see the real him.

Tangled in Love: The Ultimate Plight

He fills her life with love, yet he hesitates to express his feelings. His silence stems from a lack of confidence, an all too familiar tale. Tragically, he'd rather face death than bear the agony of her indifference. Isn't it ironic how he'd willingly play her part, constantly suggesting and subtly hinting, in a desperate quest for her reciprocation?

Such is the plight that many men face, their struggle mirrored in countless love stories.

Turning Off the Nozzle: An Illusion of Control

Imagine turning off the nozzle, your hand shaking, heart pounding with uncertainty. You hope she'd step up, break the silence, but the moment she does, you fear the balance tilting. Your ego misinterprets her intervention as a power play, when all she craves is your leadership, your protection. You desire safety yet fail to realize – you can't feel secure until you provide her with the same.

Believe in yourself, be confident in your ability to make her feel cherished.

Overcoming the Bricks in The Bucket

She may have numerous 'bricks' in her bucket - a dominating father, looming financial concerns, intrusive friends, or even a past lover. Regardless of what it is, your role is to replace these obstructions, to fill her life with love and sexual energy. You are the chosen one, the man meant to understand the magnitude of her needs, her capacity to receive.

The 30 Second Rule: Unleashing Your Inner Beauty

Time, my friends, is the most precious commodity. Don't squander it due to fear or a lack of confidence. Adopt the 30-second rule: if it no longer serves you, release it within 30 seconds. If it keeps returning or if you find yourself gravitating towards it, it's time to reevaluate.

If she was the issue, let her go. If it was you, confront your fears, kill your inner beast, and let your inner beauty shine through. Don't allow your insecurities to keep you shackled. Procrastination breeds anxiety, and remember, fear is but a mere illusion.

At the end of the day, darlings, remember to be fabulously selfish. Revel in your happiness, and let others witness the magic.

And always remember, "If you can’t see your success, change your vantage point.”

Spilling The Tea: Gender Energy Dynamics and The Pursuit of Love

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The Game of Love: Time To Hit The Reset Button

Let’s set the stage, dear friends. We live in a world where men are energy givers, women energy receivers. Sounds simple, right? But oh, what a tangled web we weave when the energy exchange goes haywire! So, grab your cup of joe or that glass of chardonnay, and let’s dive into this juicy bit of controversy.

The Gender Energy Puzzle: Are We To Blame?

Now, I’ve heard whispers about my previous posts, about them burdening the fairer sex with the brunt of the relationship responsibility. Guilty as charged, darlings! You see, men, bless our competitive hearts, we're destined to release, and women, by their very nature, are destined to receive.

Imagine the energy as water, your hearts as buckets. Men will pour into your bucket – be it love, frustration, admiration, or annoyance. You, ladies, have to decide how much of it you wish to carry. Now here comes the catch – the size of your bucket and what you allow to fill it. You get to be the gatekeepers of your emotional realm. Ain’t that a kicker?

The Dating Game & The 80/20 Rule

Picture this: it’s game day, and you, my lovely lady, have no interest in the sport. You disrupt his focus, he’s frustrated, and voila, your bucket gets a dose of 'regular' energy. Now both of you are livid! He’s off to work the next day, grumbling about wanting a wife who lets him watch the game.

Enter stage right: the charming co-worker who loves sports. Suddenly, he's tempted by a different 80%. This endless cycle can carry on until break-ups or divorce, only to realize, we men started this problem!

The Rise of The Independent Woman

And so, ladies, to avoid any more heartache, you decided to become "independent". You threw a brick in your bucket, ensuring it would never overflow. You put up walls, branding it as being 'comfortably single'. And somewhere along this journey, you lost the ability to subtly suggest, to softly guide.

But here’s a funny thing about being an "independent" woman – you can accumulate wealth and material comforts, but when your maternal instinct kicks in, you’re back in the receiving end, yearning for the warmth of sexual energy.

The Mix-Up of Energies: The Grand Confusion

Your directness, a trait that made you a boss in the first place, can excite us men. However, it can also lead to an unintended release of sexual energy before love, creating confusion and misunderstandings.

See, my friends, the confidence gap is the real villain here. We, men, need the courage to stay, to believe that we’re chosen for something more than just sexual energy. And you, ladies, need the faith to let us stay, to guide us subtly, to help us understand what you truly desire.

Key Takeaways:

  1. Recognize the natural flow of energies in relationships.
  2. Understand the consequences of switching roles.
  3. Cultivate the confidence to guide your relationship positively.

At the end of the day, all I’m saying is let’s play the game fairly. Let’s understand the power we hold over each other’s buckets and fill them with love, understanding, and respect.

As always, be fabulously selfish. Revel in your happiness, and let others witness the magic.

Remember, “If you can’t see your success, change your vantage point.”

Understanding Energy: Unleashing Your Authentic Self for True Success

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"Energy: The Misunderstood Powerhouse"

In our quest for success, we often misinterpret the use of our energy. Instead of directing it towards the things that truly serve us, we tend to bottle it up or misuse it in an attempt to impress others. Energy, in its purest form, should flow – released and received in a constant cycle, but we often find ourselves directing it at things that don't truly serve us.

"The Pitfall of Misdirected Energy"

Consider this scenario: a young man yearns for the attention of a high school sweetheart, but she's drawn to the star football player. Without the confidence to express his feelings, he redirects his energy towards mirroring what he believes she desires. He builds muscles, amasses wealth, and pumps up his confidence. While on the surface this may seem positive, there's a fundamental issue: he's not being selfish – he's being selfless.

He sacrifices his own passion and identity to impress someone else or to evade potential rejection. In this process, the achievement becomes a potent cocktail of undirected sexual energy, a sensation of dominance that could potentially turn addictive. The result? A psychological addiction that escalates with each release when love is absent.

"Hollywood Syndrome: The Addiction to External Validation"

Jay Z and Beyonce once referred to Hollywood as the world's most addictive drug. To me, this Hollywood syndrome represents the addictive cycle of releasing and receiving sexual energy. The rush of being desired, of feeling powerful – it's like a heady, intoxicating drug.

Imagine a woman who, through association with an alpha male, is elevated in status. She's now the object of many men's desires, she's envied by women – she's at the center of attention. But as she matures, she realizes that she's chasing an elusive, superficial high – that her alpha male represents the 80% who can only fill her bucket with 20% of the energy she craves.

"Finding 'The One': The Search for Genuine Fulfillment"

The quest for 'The One' – the partner who requires more than just sexual energy – takes both men and women through a series of relationships. 'The One' demands the release of love first, followed by sexual energy. 'The One' offers the best of both worlds: a bucket filled with love and sexual energy.

For a man, 'The One' helps channel his energy towards his passions. For a woman, she finds a partner who radiates confidence and offers her a satisfying blend of love and sexual energy. This balanced dynamic replaces the need for the addictive Hollywood syndrome, the artificial high of fame, and the superficial glow of the limelight.

Key Points:

  • Misdirected energy can lead to a selfless sacrifice of personal passions and identity for external validation.
  • The addictive cycle of releasing and receiving sexual energy can create an unhealthy dependency on external validation – the 'Hollywood Syndrome'.
  • Finding 'The One' – a partner who requires more than just sexual energy – can provide a healthier and more fulfilling relationship dynamic.