Allow me to kick off with a gem from the gripping movie 'Ender's Game':
"The true story is the one that the audience members create in their minds, guided and shaped by my text, but then transformed, elucidated, expanded, edited, and clarified by their own experience, their own desires, their own hopes and fears."
Isn't that a fascinating perspective? As I delve into texts or absorb words from a speaker, I plunge into an intimate conversation with the author or the speaker. I heed their message, all the while weaving in my own interpretations, my experiences. Every bit of information I consume - it's meant for me. It's a conversation, and I'm all ears.
Ever felt like a sermon or seminar was uncannily tailored for you? As if the speaker was directly addressing your deepest thoughts? If their words trigger emotions within you, it's time to self-reflect. Do you resonate with their message? If yes, you're in harmony with their thoughts. If not, or if you feel cornered, it's time for a bit of soul-searching.
Here's a trick - listen closely, not just to the words, but to the underlying message. What's the overall essence? We often get caught up in 'trigger words,' momentarily disconnecting from the conversation, lost in our daydreams or roused by a word we associate negatively with. This selective hearing disrupts our understanding of the 'big picture.'
Such emotional reactions can lead to misunderstandings in business discussions (remember True Lie #4?). You divert from the main agenda, getting defensive about a particular point that rubbed you the wrong way. Instead, let's strive to truly hear each other, to grasp the overarching message, and navigate toward mutual understanding and progress.
And as always, don't forget to be unabashedly selfish. Your happiness is contagious. "If you can't see your success, change your vantage pointe."