Pop on the television or flick through a magazine, and you'll notice a pattern. Big men are often painted as lazy, solitary beings. If we're seen with a stunning woman, what's the verdict? Must be rich, they say. It's an unsettling trend that some label as 'fatphobia'. But here's where they've got it all wrong - we have an advantage.
Imagine you're out and spot a radiant woman. You stride over and hit her with a cheery "Hi!" Your confident tone throws her. It's not what she was expecting. Forget the throng of 'Sexy Flexis' around. None had the courage to approach her. But you did.
Her internal relationship barometer goes haywire. Like a compass thrown off by a powerful magnet, she's disoriented because you were not part of her script. All the 'Sexy Flexis' in the room, and you, the unexpected hero, made the first move. Just by saying "Hi," you've taken the lead.
Consider yourself the Alpha Dawg, the front runner. Fashion and how it aids your advantage is a topic for another day. But, let's look at the usual suspects in any social scenario. First, there's the 'Yard Dog'. He knows the ropes, is familiar with everyone, and generally plays the dominant alpha. Then, there's the 'Guerilla Pimp'. His unconventional style wakes everyone up but also puts the 'Yard Dog' on high alert.
So, where do you fit in? You are the 'Smooth Operator'. Your size, regardless of how you're dressed, only intrigues the women and not seen as a threat by the 'Yard Dogs'. You're the quiet storm of confidence. By the time the 'Yard Dogs' take notice, you're already leading the dance with the belle of the ball. And that, my friend, is the advantage of the 'Big Fella'.
Can you relate to this? Share your experiences! I can tell you; when other men see me with my wife, I know they're left scratching their heads in bewilderment.