Imagine you're at the Zoo watching in aww. The Zookeeper walks slowly through the high grass of which the Lion, King of Beasts, dwells. He reaches in his bag to grab what appears to be a super-juicy uncooked steak, to which he hands off to the King of Beasts. He carefully walks away to live another day. The Zookeeper and the King of Beasts dwell together in harmony so long as the Zookeeper keeps the King of Beasts with a Queen of Beasts and plenty of delicious food to eat. The King and Queen of Beasts remain docile and jovial. 

What would happen should that Zookeeper begin to take for granted that he's dealing with a docile and jovial King and Queen of Beasts?

What would happen if the Zookeeper should elect, on any given day, not to appreciate the King and Queen of Beasts?

What would happen if the Zookeeper consciously decides not to feed the Royal Couple super-juicy uncooked steaks.

I'll tell you what happens. The King and Queen of Beasts will remember that they are Beasts and then attack as Beasts do.

When you're in a relationship, it's important to understand that your wife, husband, or your partner are Kings and Queens, human animals, and should be treated as such. Just because they have been docile and jovial doesn't mean they completely forgot who they are. It would be best if you never mistook kindness for weakness. It would help if you never mistook tamed, gentle, subdued Beasts for being soft and weak. Even Buck responded to the Call of the Wild.

Far too often, you may have gotten used to their demeanor. Have you ever forgotten that you were dealing with a King or Queen? What was the result?

Do you want to know what I learned while washing dishes? First of all, men do wash dishes and lots of them. My wife, just like her momma, likes to use one side of the sink to "soak" the dishes. By the time I get to the sink to wash the dishes, the water is damn near brown. I turned the faucet on, and down came a heavy stream of clear water. One by one, I take the "soaking" dishes and scrub each one clean. Then I insert it into the dishwasher to dry.

Yes, I use my dishwasher as a drying rack. I'm old-school like that. 

After the last dish was clean, I released that brown water while the clear water was still streaming down. It was at that point when it hit me. 

Most of you are dirty water, at least your mind is. Think of it this way. You read all the memes about how terrible men are, right? Some you even agree with. I can hear you now. You just read a meme that said something to the effect of telling you he loves you means nothing if his actions keep showing you differently. You like yup yup ummm hmmm I knew he won't shit. You agree with this because your water is dirty. It's negative. Let's call it what it is PROPAGANDA. This keeps all your ideas (dishes) dirty because they are surrounded by dirty water. His personality might just be a bit different. He might not show you love the way you expect to see or receive it, but that doesn't mean he doesn't love you or isn't trying. The dirty water has you thinking he's dirty!

Remove the dishes (your ideas/perceptions) from the dirty water, scrub them clean, wash the dishes with that crystal clear stream of water coming down, then set them in the dishwasher to dry. Next, remove the plug, or whatever that metal thing is that stops the water and catches the beans from the red beans and rice you had for dinner. If that means detox from all negative social media outlets for 30 days and replace them with positive ones and watch and see if it not only change your relationship status but your life.

Now I wonder how many of you will do the dishes!?

Advantage [Big Fella]. Sorry, I thought of this post while watching the Australian Open. Here's the deal when it comes to big men, we have an advantage. I bet you didn't know that, huh?

The media portrays us as lazy, lonely freaks, and if we somehow got caught with a beautiful woman, we must have what? A lot of money. I read one article that actually called it fatphobia.

Here is where the advantage comes in. If you're out and about and you see a beautiful woman. You walk right over to her and say hi! Immediately, your voice's confidence doesn't match what she was expecting or rather how she was taught that you would approach. There may be a ton of "sexy Flexi" dudes in the room, but none had the heart to say hi! But you did. 

Here quote-on-quote (yes, I'm doing the rabbit fingers) relationship barometer is going crazy like a magnet to a compass. She doesn't know what to do next because she wasn't expecting that. She's expecting at any moment one of those "Sexy Flexi" dudes was going to speak, not you. Now you have her open, and all you did was say hi!

Consider yourself ahead of the pack, the Alpha Dawg. Later I'll tell you about manipulating the scene through fashion, but for now, know there are typically three types of men in any given scene. There's the "Yard Dog". He's been there, knows everyone, and, being the most Alpha, will be the first to check any new males on the scene. He becomes white noise because he's been on the scene, and the women are used to him. She's used to him. She's comfortable with him, so she's cool with being around. Then there's the Guerilla Pimp. He shows up and wakes all the women up because he's dressed so differently. However, he also wakes up the Yard Dog. I believe I called them Haters or Zombies in another post ( I have too many). As stated earlier, the Yard Dog has to check him.

Where do you fall in at?

I promised you three guys on the scene. By sheer nature of you being a Big Fella, it doesn't matter how you're dressed. This guy is termed "Smooth Operator". The Smooth Operator only wakes up the women because the Yard Dogs don't deem him a threat.

You're the Smooth Operator.

With yo confident self, I see ya. By the time the Yard Dogs looks up, you will be gone, and he will wonder where she went. And that my friend is Advantage [Big Fella].

Have you ever experienced what I'm talking about? Let me know. I know when other men see me out with my wife, they have to be wondering how.

Men are weak, and women are strong in 2020, really!? I actually agree. The real question is, why? Men are getting weaker because of men. Women are the most consistent beings on Planet Earth. Think of it this way; you know that fable about the tortoise and the hare. The Hare starts running real fast and believing that it's so fast and the race is so easy that he actually stops and falls asleep and ultimately loses the race. 

What do a turtle and a rabbit have to do with relationships?

I know that's your question but think about it. The hare being you, "The Man," starts fast and is winning the race, but you're inconsistent. Ultimately, our society as now and throughout history shows that when society becomes too "feminine," it fails.

I'm a Father, and that's why I feel this needs to be said.

I always make an important distinction between men and Fathers. God grants you the title of Father. Whether that's a result of practicing Divinity or being married. Time and time again, I state that "men" are responsible for the fall of "men," and thus society failing. It's not a feminine or masculine thing; it's a family structure thing. 

When men aren't upgraded to Father, who is to do the rearing of their children, that's really not a difficult question to answer. It's the women or some other man. This creates a problem because, as I stated on many occasions, a child needs a Father to instill confidence or, as I like to put it, increase their bucket or nozzle. Without that, you have toxic feminity or masculinity. This compounds the problem. I get it Adam was put here first. But, he needed a why, he needed a reason to feel his existence was deliberate, along came Eve. She needed to feel her existence was deliberate, along came the child. There's no such thing as independence. The only time you reference independence is when you're referring to something relating to money.

Back to the Tortoise and the Hare.

Women aren't getting stronger. They are the Tortoise when you become tired and weak here she comes as consistent as she can be right along to pass you. If the right Tortoise comes along maybe, she'll help you. These men claiming that women are weak and inferior to men are really getting on my nerves. You made your bed now lay in it.

Thinking everything should be 50/50 is killing your relationship! If you remember back to school or maybe you're still in school, but a 90-100% is an "A," 80-89 is a "B," 70-79% is a "C," 60-69 is a "D," and anything below a "D" is an "F." That means that if you received a 50% on anything, you got an "F." "F" stands for failure!

Your relationships are doing what!? Failing. I know you were taught because you're a man, you're supposed to do certain things. You were taught as a woman, and she's supposed to do certain things. That's completely false, and it's killing your relationship.

The break-down. Jordan didn't expect Scottie to bring 20% of his energy to the game each night. If he did, they wouldn't have won six rings. At this point, the answer should be obvious they won six rings because Jordan brought 100%, Pip brought 100%, and each member of the team brought 100% every night. If Pip only brought 20% of the energy that night Jordan played with the flu, we would not be talking about the Bulls and their six rings.

I want you to be successful in relationships, but to do that, you have to stop thinking you're splitting everything down the middle. You need 100%, and she needs 100% to get a 100%. If she brings 100% and you bring your 50% together, you're 75%, that's a "C," which is average at best! 

Here I AM struggling with the whole idea of how to share my knowledge on the subject of confidence. I struggled with the idea of having to prove my credibility and such. So off to YouTube I go. I went to do some research into how other tubers (Yes, I AM a tuber now) present their knowledge. I watched a few channels then got caught in the YouTube loop and was watching video after video. Oh, that algorithm.

I went to sleep, woke to a whole new set of suggestions. It was sneakers and fashion it was all about personalities. I remembered having to take a personality test at work. I remembered that there was only a small portion of the world that was like me. I thought... did I game the system for it to match me with my ideal personality.

This led me to take the test again and my goal was to speed through it without giving the questions and answers much thought. I did and the test came back positive ( a little COVID humor) I have an INFJ personality type.

INFJ is one of the rarest personality types. Oh, btw I took the test here. And no this is sponsored. I actually paid more attention to what it was saying this time and I finally felt like someone knew me, I mean besides my family. Myers Briggs knew me, knew me, and apparently so did these Tubers. 

A few of the adjectives that describe INFJs are altruistic, passionate, principled, insightful, creative reluctant to open up, perfectionistic, and avoid the ordinary. Honestly, I'm boosted.

If you watch a few "Tubers" on the subject let me know what you think. Go take the test. I'm interested in hearing what your personality type fits you!

I wanted to start a YouTube channel. Well to be honest I already had started the channel. I didn't feel like my content had me in it. It had my words but not my feelings and emotions. To combat this I called my brothers. I spent about 8 hrs total talking to them. I asked this question, how do I get me across on my YouTube screen.

I called my middle brother he was like I really don't care what you say, just say it in five minutes or less. I called my youngest brother and asked the same question. How do I get me, my personality, across on YouTube? He was like you need a hook, some good content but keep it brief. I called my oldest brother, he's slightly younger than me by a couple of months, and asked him the same question. He said you have to see who you're talking to and talk directly to them.

Apparently, I talk too much and never shut up.

Within my child-rearing, there's this law that says "you don't get credit for being able to fight unless you have gotten into a few fights". This warrior class mentality had me thinking like I was in the Farmers Hall of Fame. I know a thing or two because I've experienced a thing or two. But the question is how do I get that message across? My baby brother was like be you but be you in less than 10 minutes. Talking to my middle brother I said to him I can tell the stories of my experience.

Do you know what he said? Stop snitching.

He was like you're going to be giving away the game and that ain't cool. Then he sorta recanted and said tell the stories that actually help people. Give them the story first and then break it down. I told him that I was going to do that a couple of days ago (more on why that happened later) and here we are. My oldest brother was like look, tell your stories however you're going to tell them.

I said when I come into a room it's easy to talk to people because I can feel their energy. I have learned exactly where it's coming from and what I need to say to that person to bring their vibration up, so we all can have some fun. He well, talk to em'.

I was like through the camera?

He was like how else do you talk to people on YouTube? I was like true, true. He said listen I don't know if he really said this but this is what I heard. He said you have emotional intelligence coupled with confidence and the world needs that or at least the person that's listening to you needs that. I was like I've always felt it my job to protect my friends and family with tenacity and he was like then do that.

I was like bet. So here I come ya'll.

Appreciation hmmm. Should you be appreciated? Should you feel appreciated? Do you even understand appreciation?

Relationships, just like everything else, have a value system.

We teach this value system without understanding how the system works. Allow me to explain

If you do a quick search on the World Wide Web, meaning Google it, the word appreciation Google will define appreciation by giving the following definition “the recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something.”

Webster (online) offers a couple of definitions:

A feeling or expression of admiration, approval, or gratitude

Increase in value.

Google’s definition is what the world has accepted without any details. Webster’s first explanation is just like Google, no details, but the second is where the big clue lives.

“Increase in Value”

In another post about the idiom, why buy the cow if the milk is free? I talked about the way you think or were taught to think. What I said was “if it has a value you buy it and if it has no value it’s free. If you restate it properly the idiom would be “don’t invest in anything that doesn’t produce a benefit.”

Let’s see how this works.

When you know your value then and only then can you start to appreciate. There is intrinsic value and extrinsic value. You weren’t taught the understanding of intrinsic value so you have no clue how that works, therefore, you look extrinsically for your value.

First, this is a flawed way of viewing things because there is not one person in the world that can see the world from your vantage pointe. The only person that can see from your vantage point is God.

What is an intrinsic and extrinsic value?

Intrinsic value in this context is another word for self-worth. It’s how you think of yourself. It all boils down to confidence. Your level of confidence determines your worth in any situation.

An extrinsic value in this context is the value that the world has placed on you.

You are taught that intrinsic value will never match extrinsic value so you use extrinsic value to base your evaluation. Think of a penny. This penny can be boiled down to form copper and now to form zinc and copper. The way you were taught was that the copper from the penny is worth less than the one cent the penny is valued at or you would just melt the penny. If you translate that to you, then that would mean that you’re worth less than the value the world puts on you for being you.

What do you do? You base your confidence on how you’re treated in the world, not your confidence. If the world thinks you’re worthless you allow your confidence to reflect the world’s view of you.

In this vein of thought, you can never appreciate because the value of you is always changing based on the pictures you’re seeing. This is the real reason why you have idols. You see them and based on the way the world treats them you believe you will be treated if you can reach their pedestal. This also explains stereotypes because the pictures you see tell you who you are loud and clear. Also, you hear it over and over again so you believe you see confirmation.

The opening questions lead to totally different views on appreciation and ultimately why you’re not appreciated. It’s not until you start to value you then you can appreciate. Everyone has a baseline and anything above that baseline is appreciation.

Should you be appreciated? Yes, if you have provided value to someone or the world above the baseline. Think of it this way, while you’re dating you hang out spending time together helping build the confidence of the other person. The baseline is hanging out but because they are gaining confidence that you help to instill then to them you’re gaining value – being appreciated.

Should you feel appreciated? Yes, if you understand that you’re more confident today than you were yesterday. Think of it this way, while you’re dating you hang out spending time together. Because time is mental cash that when spent you can’t get back only invested you’re gaining confidence – felling appreciated.

Do you understand appreciation? Abso-freakin-lutely!

I saw an Instagram post either yesterday or today, I'm not sure, but it has been on my mind. It showed two pictures. One was of a woman and her daughter dress like dancers and was presented as if the mother was a stripper and her daughter was dressed just like her. The other was what appeared to be an educated woman who was putting a graduation cap on her daughter.

I commented on the post and said "there is no male in either picture". The reason for the comment was this. We are looking at the result of a series of males. For the sake of this post, we'll say she was a Stripper and the other picture was that of a Professor.

My guess is that the Stripper father wasn't in her life. Or, if he was he wasn't active or expanded her bucket as he should have. Without any information, you would assume that her father wasn't in her life and neither was her daughter's father. So the cycle continues.

In the case of the Professor, more than likely her father was in her life. You could make the assumption that her father wasn't in her life either but her mother was strong enough to direct and support her on her goals.

The majority of the comments were about what men don't want. I can't stand seeing content like this because again there are no men in the picture. To me that's the biggest problem, there are no men in the picture.

Have you seen a post like this? If you have seen a post like this, what are your thoughts?

Dinner smash? What do I mean? Dinner's meaning is obvious. Smash is slang for sharing emotions, intercourse, sex, and insert explicative.

Imagine several years ago, let's say seven, you met a handsome gent. You lost connection. There was never a real connection, to begin with, so it's not like you were Ghosted. When the two of you randomly linked back up he explained that somehow he had lost your number, but found it now (insert confused emoji). You chat for a bit then he suggests that the two of you should have dinner. After some petty verbal discourse, a challenge gets made to which he insists that he himself could be considered somewhat of a Chef. He desperately wants to prove it to you. The setting for this dinner competition is at his place. You agreed. You show up for dinner and he has in fact cooked a stupendous meal for the two of you.

What should happen next?

Should you leave after grading his dinner?

Should you stay maybe watch Netflix?

Should you suggest that the two of you go out for dessert?

What did you decide to do?

You decided to pay him for his meal and the effort he put in. You didn't decide to pay him with attention. You didn't decide to pay him with physical cash?

You decided that this meal and the effort that was put in was worth your body. Yes, you shared emotions with him. In other words, the two of you had sex.

Did you get to at least stay the night? Nope.

Here's my point. Over and over again I explain that relationships have a cash value.

Instead of searching through my hundreds of posts, I'm going to detail what I mean here.

How much do you think the meal was worth, in terms of actual cash? Let's say he spent a thousand dollars on the 1973 Chateau Montelena Chardonnay, Wagyu beef meatball stuffed with foie gras and truffle cheese and topped with White Truffle Marinara Sauce, and Homemade Tagliolini Pasta.

Even though that sounds absolutely delectable it doesn't match you. No, I'm not talking about the taste of you. It doesn't match the value of you.

The absolutely most important point is how much do you value yourself?

You gave him your body for the cost of dinner and the effort that was put in. He's left satisfied in every sense and you're left alone, which is unsatisfying. I don't care how good the intercourse was. I don't care how much the meal cost. I don't care how much effort he put in. You should not have come at such an inexpensive cost.

Please increase your self-esteem! Expand your bucket!

Have you ever been in a scenario similar to this one? How did you feel?

I want to be a Gazelle, is that ok? Currently, I'm a Lion but I want to be a Gazelle.

Why?

Lions eat Gazelles, right?

If that was your thought pattern then you're absolutely right, Lions do eat Gazelles. If the Lion doesn't catch the Gazelle the Lion dies, right? I'm aware there are other animals that Lions eat but let's say for the sake of the argument they only eat Gazelles. The Lion sleeps all day basically wakes up to eat and make babies. Occasionally there is drama from other Prides. The Gazelle has to always be ready for when the Lion may strike.

See when you're a Lion the metaphor is that you're hungry so you're hunting. In this case, I want to be the best. I believe that I am the best at understanding relationships and how they actually work. However, there are a ton of so-called Guru's getting the attention. They are at the top of their game and I want their spot. That makes me a Lion and since I'm hunting their metaphorical spot amongst the "Relationship Guru" ranks, they are the Gazelle.

Magic became a Gazelle when Jordan hit the league. Jordan became a Gazelle when Kobe (R.I.P.) hit the league. Kobe became the Gazelle when Lebron hit the league.

I want to be amongst the greats. I want the information that I'm sharing to be in History books. Maybe even a class taught in High-School or College. Einstein is a Gazelle, Freud is a Gazelle.

Once I become the Gazelle I will have to always be on my game so that I'm not eaten and I know that day will come and I'm looking forward to it.

Are you the Gazelle or are you still hungry like a Lion?

Let's talk about Social Media for a second. I open up Instagram. I type in "Relationships". The first thing I see is the account leaders, I guess. I click on the first account. Guess what I see as their latest post? I'm paraphrasing but it says something to the effect of don't beg for a friendship or relationship; you should receive the same effort as you give or let them go.

I thought wooooooooow that was so insightful. I'm not hating on the account but c'mon man people need cures, not treatment.

I ask you what do you gain from hearing this?

It's a rhetorical question because I know the answer, nothing.

Ok, let me ask you this, If you see a rose grow from concrete did the rose put in more or less effort than a rose that grows out of the ground in a garden?

I don't know because I'm not a rose.

So you judge the environment in which the rose grew and make assumptions about how difficult it was for the rose. I mean it had to be difficult for a rose to grow through concrete. Right? Maybe.

Everyone sees this broken concrete and through it blossomed a pretty rose. Everyone steps over the rose moves around the rose to admire the rose's beauty all day. At night the rose is a sight to see. The way the street lights bounce off the concrete to shine on the rose tells you although the rose's life has been rough you can't stop its shine.

But what about the beetles, mites, caterpillars, and grasshoppers in the garden? Not to mention the predators that eat them while they are eating. Oh, insecticides showering the rose to hopefully get rid of all of that.

Now, who has to put in more effort to grow?

This is why content like this doesn't serve to help you with your #relationshipgoals. You have to understand why you made the judgment in the first place. You have to understand you, then it will be easier to judge how much effort was put in because it will be based on how much you require.

Out of curiosity which rose are you?

You’re beautiful. You have the job, the body, and personality. When you walk into any room instantly you become one of the desirables. Then why the fuck are you single (insert angry emoji).

I’ll tell you why you’re single. Who you are doesn’t match with your self-esteem. There’s a mis-match.

Because of this mis-match you live in a confused world. By being confused you lie to yourself about who you are and because you’re lying to yourself you’re inadvertently lying to him.

You know you’re desired. You know you’re beautiful and smart. You know you’re sexy. You know all of those things until you leave the house.

Think of it this way, if I want to find people who love to play basketball I’m not going to go to the soccer field. Even if I sucked at basketball I would potentially find other people that suck too but love the game. That’s less likely at the soccer field. At the soccer field, you’re going to find people who love soccer.

Why would you go to the soccer field trying to find b-ball players, you wouldn’t, right? Oh, but you are.

The majority of people spend time where they are comfortable. There is a reason you feel comfortable there. Belongingness is wanting to be a part of a group. Where you go is driven by your self-esteem or confidence. By my example you went to the soccer field looking for people who love to play basketball, right?

Ok, let me put it another way. Let’s say you’re a Doctor. Let’s say you’re really sweet with it like Dr. Strange. You drive a black on black Lamborghini. You have a home hidden in the woods on a gazillion acres of land. If you were to hang out after work, where would it be? My guess is that it would be at some high-end lounge where only the elite of the elite can get into, you know, people on the level of Dr. Strange. You would not hang out downtown in Collegetown, USA. Would he?

The reason you wouldn’t is that you believe you are the best at what you do and people who are the best at what they do wouldn’t dare go there. Mentally you don’t have anything in common with commonfolk so you wouldn’t fit in. The sense of belongingness wouldn’t be there.

Right now your mind has shut off and it’s what is largely responsible for your relationship status. Let me explain, then I will tell you how to get past this bullschit.

If you go to the soccer field to look for basketball players then you may be the worst soccer player there and that’s ok. The reason it’s ok is that you aren’t that interested in soccer you’re interested in basketball. If they decide to teach you to play soccer it’s ok because there is no expectation because everyone already knows you suck. But here’s the trick. Because everyone there is really good at soccer it’s less likely they’re also good at basketball. So even without being tested, they assume you’re really good at basketball. This makes you the best basketball player on the soccer field.

How well do you feel? Comfortable remember.

So for the moment, you learn to play soccer but every time you want to play basketball they want to play soccer. So there is this disconnect. You either play soccer with the crew or play basketball alone until you find a crew that loves basketball. But if you found a crew that loved to play basketball then the fact that you suck will get put on Front Street and you will be forced to deal with the fact that you suck and get better if it’s what you love.

You want to be like Dr. Strange and hit the court knowing you’re the best or at least hang with the best.

Here’s how to make sense of this confusion. Unless being single is a choice most people will never understand this. There’s a little voice in your head that no one other than you can hear or talk to. She’s always with you. I know this sounds crazy but when you get comfortable hanging out with her then you will begin to properly align yourself. When you’re on the court practicing by yourself you’re getting better at hanging with her. Now let’s exchange the basketball court for anything you love to do. Finding love is easy when you know where to look and I just told you where to look. If you went to the bar with her (the person inside your head) then you’re not alone. So you two enjoy a drink or two or three and enjoy yourself.

Take ownership of yourself.

Be like Dr. Strange I spoke about. Hangout where people like you, the elite of the elite, hang out. More than likely you’ll find someone just like you there. Pick a place you love that’s where the elite of the elite like you hang out. If it’s the movies, go to the movies. If it’s an art museum go to the fucking museum.

Luck happens when the Universe spots love.

How did they do it?

What binds them all together?

There has to be something that you could use to your advantage, right?

I asked all the same questions and then it hit me.

There’s a not-so-secret, secret amongst the wealthy.

When you become King the importance diverts from being a leader of your country to finding a suitable wife. When you look amongst the wealthy there is something that is hidden.

It’s their wives.

Every last one of them is married with the exception of one, who has maintained a long-lasting relationship with one girl after four tries at marriage.

You want to emulate what did to gain success but success eludes you, why?

I’m not taking away any of their genii but I do believe the wife is where their brilliance comes from. Napolean Hill wrote about the transmutation of sex most think it’s about not having sex and using the extra “energy” to focus on accomplishing your goals.

I think it’s about adding energy to your focused goal.

When you have a wife two things can be said. One, you no longer focus energy on getting the baddest chick in the club ‘cause you already have her and she’s your wife.

That equals energy savings because if you know like I know it takes a lot of energy to remember what this one likes, how to excite that one, and what’s important to the other one. And two you have another energy source supporting your goals by giving you confidence and providing insight that you might not have ever thought of.

This list of the top ten richest men (and their wives) are as follows:

1. Jeff Bezos (Mckenzie)
2. Bill Gates (Melinda)
3. Warren Buffet (Astrid)
4. Bernard Arnault (Helene Mercier)
5. Mark Zuckerberg (Priscilla)
6. Amancio Ortega (Flora)
7. Carlos Slim Helu (Soumaya)
8. Charles & David Koch (Liz, Julia)
9. Larry Ellison (Nikita – Long Time Girlfriend)
10. Michael Bloomberg (Diana)

We’re a team gentleman and as your coach, this passage from Pacino in the longest yard (apply it to relationships) about sums it up. This is the millionaire’s secret. You can do what you want. Anything you have a passion for she will help you achieve it. Not too often do you find a family that remains poor forever that stays together?

I don’t know what to say, really. Three minutes to the biggest battle of our professional lives. All comes down to today, and either, we heal as a team, or we're gonna crumble. Inch by inch, play by play. Until we're finished. We're in hell right now, gentlemen. Believe me. And, we can stay here, get the shit kicked out of us, or we can fight our way back into the light. We can climb outta hell... one inch at a time.

Now I can't do it for ya, I'm too old. I look around, I see these young faces and I think, I mean, I've made every wrong choice a middle-aged man can make. I, uh, I've pissed away all my money, believe it or not. I chased off anyone who's ever loved me. And lately, I can't even stand the face I see in the mirror. You know, when you get old, in life, things get taken from you. I mean, that's... that's... that's a part of life. But, you only learn that when you start losin' stuff. You find out life's this game of inches, so is football. Because in either game - life or football - the margin for error is so small. I mean, one half a step too late or too early and you don't quite make it. One-half second too slow, too fast and you don't quite catch it. The inches we need are everywhere around us. They're in every break of the game, every minute, every second.

On this team, we fight for that inch. On this team, we tear ourselves and everyone else around us to pieces for that inch. We claw with our fingernails for that inch. Because we know when adding up all those inches, that's gonna make the fucking difference between winning and losing! Between living and dying! I'll tell you this, in any fight, it's the guy who's willing to die who's gonna win that inch.

And I know, if I'm gonna have any life anymore it's because I'm still willing to fight and die for that inch, because that's what living is, the six inches in front of your face. Now I can't make you do it. You've got to look at the guy next to you, look into his eyes. Now I think ya going to see a guy who will go that inch with you. You’re gonna see a guy who will sacrifice himself for this team because he knows when it comes down to it your gonna do the same for him. That's a team, gentlemen, and either, we heal, now, as a team, or we will die as individuals. That's football guys, that's all it is. Now, what are you gonna do?

When you read Genesis in the Bible God is talking to someone. Who? Himself or someone else? Could it Be?

Adam and Eve committed the first sin. Could it Be?

The Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit equal the Holy Trinity. Could it Be?

Every single movie turns out to be a love story. Could it Be?

The difference between yours (single) and ours (plural) is y (why), right? Could it Be?

Could it be that everything that we were taught is the result of relationships? That sounds absurd, I know, but could it be?

When we learned the creation story we learned that the first day He said “let there be light” and the light was good that was day one. Then on day two, he separated the sky from Earth. Ok, the Bible uses firmament but firmament is a sphere which then creates imagery of a snow globe and within that snow globe we have separation of the water from below and water from above which means clouds in the sky or heaven. Then on the third day, He sowed and reaped, right? He planted grass with seeds and fruit trees which resulted in seeds falling back to earth. The fourth day He said in the Heaven (sky) the sun will be the light of day and the moon along with the stars be the light of night. He looked and yeah that looks good.

Using the sun and moon to distinguish signs and seasons, days and years. The fifth day in the creation story God created all the living creatures of land and sea. He then says be “fruitful and multiply”. The sixth day gives clue to the fact that God is not alone. God said look I gave you every herb with seeds and I gave you trees with seeds. To all the beasts I have given them herbs to eat. He noticed everything he had done and said it was very good. Then the seventh day he rested.

When I hear that I think of The Father who has been given a honey-to-do list by His Wife (The Holy Ghost).

Ok, wait.

The Holy Trinity is The Father, The Son, and The Holy Ghost.  You can't be a Father without a Son and you can't have a son without a Mother and since Mother isn't mentioned directly that means...

I explain this in more detail in my upcoming E-Book Plucked From Heaven

Back to the interpretation.

He got his chores on day one. Day two he prioritized. Day three he went to work planting the grass and fruit tree seeds. He felt he not only did a good job but he could see in the future of how beautiful they were going to look. Day four He worked tirelessly day and night to get everything done. He realized that he used the sun to see everything in the daytime but he could also see in the night using the moon and the stars. Day five He created the names of all these things, therefore, he made them exist.

He said, “go be fruitful and multiply”. That’s how you show appreciation for your work! Day six after completing the list he says look Woman (The Holy Ghost). I planted the grass that has seeds so this grass will continue to grow on its own, boom. I planted the fruit trees. Not just any fruit trees but the fruit trees with seeds so when the seeds drop they are going to create more fruit trees, boom. Oh wait, there’s more. I fed all the animals with herbs. I gave names to the creatures of the land, sea and the sky (Heaven). Tomorrow I’m chilling. God's to-do list was completed and that made him feel good. The Holy Ghost is pleased because he has done so.

The point of all this is that what is missing from and ties everything to every story is the role of the Woman. Not only the role of the woman but marriage. Adam and Eve would have never committed the sin had they waited and gotten married or if nothing else the approval from God, The Father. As should be even in modern-day marriages.

Not only was he married but he was able to accomplish so much once given direction. (*wink-wink*)